you_can_not_see_me Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I was turned down by a girl a few months ago cause she said she was taken. I didn't see her for a few months then I ran into her yesterday. what surprised me was that she was pretty affectionate and was rubbing my shoulders a little while we were catching up. Her behavior has puzzled me a bit, I have never had someone turn me down then act this way at a later point. Is this girl not worried that I might take this as a sign of interest? The girl told me she liked me when I asked her out a few months ago but declined going out cause she said she was seeing someone. I thought she was just saying that to make me feel better but I m not so sure now, especially cause she always gave me the impression that she was interested, even the first time we ever meet. so I don't know, what do you guys make of this?
HappyLove Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 She's most likely changed her mind or is playing games.
smackie9 Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 Stop being insecure. the next step is to ask her out. You will know then if she is interested....
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted September 17, 2014 Author Posted September 17, 2014 Stop being insecure. the next step is to ask her out. You will know then if she is interested.... But I did ask her out a few months ago! if she's interested shouldn't she be the one to ask me out?
deathandtaxes Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 But I did ask her out a few months ago! if she's interested shouldn't she be the one to ask me out? Alas equality hasn't quite made it to the dating world quite yet.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted September 17, 2014 Author Posted September 17, 2014 Alas equality hasn't quite made it to the dating world quite yet. its not a matter of equality, I am simply not in a position to know if she wants me to approach her again. But she is! she knows I like her since I actually asked her out once already and if anything has changed so that she does want to date me, she d be the only one to know! I actually have no reason to approach what so ever, cause from my point of view nothing has changed.
d0nnivain Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 She didn't turn you down in that she didn't find you attractive. She turned you down because she was dating somebody else. Now since she's being affectionate, you are free to confirm that they broke up. If they did, ask her out. She won't ask you; equality still doesn't work that way & it's not always equal.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted September 17, 2014 Author Posted September 17, 2014 But I don't want to be turned down by her again Why dignity would I have left if I tried to ask her out again and I was turned down again? I d seem super desperate. I don't know we will see if she continues to be affectionate, they I may bring up her boyfriend in a some casual way to see if she is single or not.
Mister Zen Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 You should definitely try to date or sleep with her. I don't know if I would take someone that wishy-washy seriously in a relationship though.
d0nnivain Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I don't know we will see if she continues to be affectionate, they I may bring up her boyfriend in a some casual way to see if she is single or not. Exactly. You have to determine her status before you do anything else.
PegNosePete Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I don't know we will see if she continues to be affectionate, they I may bring up her boyfriend in a some casual way to see if she is single or not. Yes that would be my plan. Ask how her boyfriend is doing. If she says they split up then ask her out.
smackie9 Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 But I did ask her out a few months ago! if she's interested shouldn't she be the one to ask me out? There are a lot of girls/women that still feel it's the guy's job to do the asking out. If you want something, you go and get it. The opportunity is there now take it.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 Ok but I only ran into her coincidentally, and I don't have her contact. All I have to go on is that I know a time and place where she is likely to be. won't it seem pretty desperate if I show up at that time again? I mean for all intents and purposes she might not be single and this might have just been a friendly gesture.
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