enchanted771 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Say you had 2 great dates then he starts cancelling. Do you let him cancel once? Twice? Last guy kept making excuses & stopped rescheduling (but would say we would hang out again soon) say he cancels then asks when your free again? Just preparing myself this time.
HappyLove Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 You may be starting to look desperate if you keep rescheduling with someone who doesn't respect your time. He's not that into you because if he was this wouldn't happen time and time again. You get one time to cancel if it's done again ESPECIALLY in a row?! NEXT! Nothing good comes from people like this.
oberkeat Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I wouldn't put a number on it. I'm alright with someone cancelling, so long as they make a counteroffer. If a girl just cancels and doesn't suggest another date, with a specific day in mind ("Some soon" is a nonstarter), I know she isn't interested, and I don't initiate contact again.
d0nnivain Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 Depends on why the person cancelled. If it was weather or genuine emergencies, I could understand. I wouldn't tolerate more than one unexplained something suddenly came up.
carhill Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 Say you had 2 great dates then he starts cancelling. Do you let him cancel once? Twice? Last guy kept making excuses & stopped rescheduling (but would say we would hang out again soon) say he cancels then asks when your free again? Just preparing myself this time. My guideline is, if a dating partner cancels without attempting a reschedule, with specifics (time/place, etc), they are cancelled.
Dork Vader Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I'll reschedule one time. If they can't make it to the second date they are not interested. If they don't have a good excuse for the first flake/cancelation they wont be given a second chance. I'm rigid as hell. But I've learned people flake because they are not interested 99% of the time. Granted stuff in life does come up but for it to come up twice in a row? Sorry. I've got better things to do with my time then hope they'll actually show up. We are adults and games have no place in healthy dating.
Elias33 Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 Once. I only allow one re-schedule. If you are not in a position to date, don't date. Excuses are a promise of repetition as they say.
djcos25 Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I'll reschedule one time. If they can't make it to the second date they are not interested. If they don't have a good excuse for the first flake/cancelation they wont be given a second chance. I'm rigid as hell. But I've learned people flake because they are not interested 99% of the time. Granted stuff in life does come up but for it to come up twice in a row? Sorry. I've got better things to do with my time then hope they'll actually show up. We are adults and games have no place in healthy dating. This. Exactly this. I've gotten quite a few numbers in the past few months. They've all led to flakes though. I'm at a point where if they flake even once I'm done. If they're interested they'll find time for you.
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