veggirl Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 If you explicitly tell your bf what bothers you (the facebook secrecy, etc) and he doesn't change then what can you do? You need to decide if you are okay w/ the things as they are now because....he isn't changing. If you aren't okay with them, why stay with him? The fb thing is a huge red flag, he is actively hiding you from people and people from you. And he knows it bothers you, he just doesn't care...hiding you is more important to him than your feelings about it are. That says a LOT. 1
chados Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 (edited) i am pretty sure that this is a time when youre busy he thinks that you dont need him as much, which makes him wanting you more. we show love differently. he's probably afraid that if you dont call him up first and tell him you love him its not sincere. basically what he's trying to say is youre to good for me to make you show more love and not because youre to good for him. this often backfires because its not attractive to say i love you more then myself. this is just my guess of course but i think that stepping back will make him work more yes. but it might also put him in to a depression thinking he's loosing you. talk to him about it and explain how you feel even if im wrong about this thats the best thing you can do. " i had to go to a seminar so i had to hang up and he said goodnight. i later sent him a song i wrote about us. he called me then on my phone (i was already on my way to uni) and told me that it was so very sweet and that he just wanted to call to tell me he loves me (he had not said it for a whole month…). So of course this made me very happy. he said good night again (sleepy time for him already) -- but now, 2 hours later, i receive an email from him saying" i missed this. of course it was for a good reason now youre overthinking. but if he cheated on you is another question since ive read your other posts now. i think no matter if he should not hide things from you like this. i think you should respect yourself and tell him that it isnt okey. Edited October 1, 2014 by chados
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