KellyM32 Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 Do second chances work? what are the odds, I was with my BF for 6 years, I ended it because we weren't going any further in our relationship....I left him and it has been 3 months, He calls me constantly and wants to get back together, says he is ready to take the next step in our relationship... Can I believe him??? How do you know if someone is really sincere, I feel like I am in Limbo now and I either want to get back or just move on with my life.... Any comments please......
kimizmat Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 If you feel you two had a good relationship, good communication, trust, etc., perhaps it's not a bad idea to give it another try. Just so long as he's aware of what you want/need. Perhaps you could try counselling a time or two together, to explore the reasons for the "stagnance" in your relationship. I certainly wish I had. Mine and I were together 9 years before we got married, and I wish I had looked more closely at the reasons we hadn't moved forward sooner. You may definitely want to discuss in detail with him why he thinks the relationship hasn't progressed to your liking. He may have valid reasons, you may also have hesitations but are so bent on going to the next level, you're not seeing them clearly. I wanted marriage deep down because I think I wanted to secure him as mine and mine alone. I didn't feel, even after nine years, that things were that stable and believed marriage would help. Quite the opposite. Hope this helps.
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