blue17 Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 Anyone else just kinda bored w/ life? I've just come to the realization I haven't had many things goin for me in a long time (since high school ended about 8 months ago). I feel like I'm just droning through the days....they're all the same, nothing different. Wake up, go to school, sit in class....talk/laugh with some acquaintences, go home at 12 30 or 3 30....then spend the rest of the evening on the computer, watching TV, or doing HW. My relations with people has gotten slowly worse over the last 8 months..... I don't really have a group of good friends to hang out with, I only do stuff like every couple weeks w/ a few semi-friends. I turned 19 recently, which is legal age for clubbing and drinking. Of course, I haven't even been to a club yet even tho I'd really like to go. The few good friends that I have aren't old enough to do any of those activities (they're under 19 so they can't go clubbing) and the ones that are over 19 or have fake ID's i'm not really great friends with and don't invite me to go along w/ them. As you can prolly guess by what I've told you so far, I don't have a girlfriend. The girl who I had a fling with near the end of high school ended up in a disaster.....we don't even say hi to each other when we see one another at college even tho we used to be so close. It's really too bad because I could probably meet a lot of new people through her if we actually spent time together like before....but now we just avoid each other. The few girls that showed interest in me this year...it just fizzled pretty fast and it never went anywhere. At this point I just want a girlfriend for someone to spend time with...because i'm getting so bored w/ what i'm doin now. I'd be happy if I had a better social life. I went to a party a while ago, I had a great time....and I was actually thinking "man I'm glad I don't have a girlfriend right now...." because it was such a good evening and I could just enjoy myself. But parties don't really ever happen nowadays since a majority of people are goin out to clubs and all that stuff. I've made a lot of acquiantences at my new college, someone I could laugh and joke around with and stuff, but it hasn't gone any further than that. I just feel like I'm trapped. It's like I can't think of any way this situation is gonna get any better. Whenever I TRY to make friends, nothing ever happens. Whenever i TRY to hit on a girl, nothing works out. The only way I seem to get relatiionships w/ people is just by minding my own business and such....but since college has started that doesn't seem to be working at all. It's a viscious cycle too...because the more time I spend not doing interesting things, the less interesting of a person I become and it's even harder to make new friends or get a new girlfriend. People always have interesting stories of what they did on the weekend and such, and I can pretty much only talk about what they did because I didn't do anything exciting myself :/ Anyways, I'm not really sure what I'm asking for by posting this, but any help or insight couldn't hurt
Israfil Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 You can either be a pro-active or passive user in your own life. Decide what you want out of your life, then decide which type of user you are going to be.
d'Arthez Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 I agree with Israfil. You are only young once, and you should make the best of your life. Don't let life happen to you, but shape it yourself. Be active about it. If you would like to be more outgoing and have a better social life, you need to spend more time with people. Go out with your friends, and revitalize these contacts with them. Just because you are 19, you are not an outcast in their eyes. I know it sounds simple, but you must make an effort. Without making an effort, you'd fail for sure. You don't want that! If you have an interest in art, do something with that. If you have an interest in dancing, do so. Et cetera.
HoldOn Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 Sounds like you have lots of extra time. Why don't you get a part-time job, maybe at a club. I bet you'd meet a lot of people.
moimeme Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 Here's a grand answer to your issue. Some folks who lose their taste for life are depressed, but it doesn't sound as though you are. In which case, Tony's philosophy is a great one to adopt: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=416886#post416886
alphamale Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 the younger years, especially teenage years, are usually the worst years of many people's lives. it gets better as u get older.
jellybean Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Sounds like you have lots of extra time. Why don't you get a part-time job, maybe at a club. I bet you'd meet a lot of people. This is good advice, and worked for me when I was in my early twenties. I felt bored with life.....one night I went out clubbing with some friends, I started to wonder what it would be like to work at one of these places. I didn't need the extra income cuz I already had a full-time, well-paying job. What I wanted was - FUN! So, never expecting in million years that I would be hired - I applied at the hottest club in town - and they hired me on the spot! I had zero experience as a cocktail waitress, but they didn't seem to mind that I required full training. I worked there every Friday and Saturday night, and it was a BLAST! I met soooo many people, and the tips were fabulous. I had to end it after a couple of years because I became involved in a committed relationship, and my b/f did not approve of what what I was doing. 'course this was all many years ago when I was young and still had my looks I can't imagine finding the energy to hold down two jobs at this stage of my life. Why not take a course in bar-tending?...the job will give you a perfectly legitimate reason for being in a drinking establishment, and the social atmosphere is conducive to meeting lots of new people in your age-group.
blue17 Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Sounds like you have lots of extra time. Why don't you get a part-time job, maybe at a club. I bet you'd meet a lot of people. I alrdy applied to a place or two recently....no calls yet. I'm gonna turn in my resume at a few other places this week, so I hope getting a job will help my situation. In the summer I am gonna take a course at our college to keep me busy and I might meet some people there as well.
HoldOn Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Good good. I am happy that you are taking some steps. Believe me, though, I know exactly how you feel. As a college freshmen, I totally had no friends and I felt so alone. Like the only loser in the world. But my sophomore year I met people who have been my best friends for the past 10 years. It takes time to find people to bond with. So, don't give up hope. Remember that even though it seems like everybody else has the best social life ever, that's not true. Don't give up!
blue17 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Remember that even though it seems like everybody else has the best social life ever, that's not true. Don't give up! Ya that's totally true. I was talkin to a couple girls today and part of the convo was about what we did on the weekend, and even these girls who were attractive and good/fun people didn't do anything exciting either. One girl even said it is a pain to go out and she usually just watches movies at home on saturday night. That was kinda surprising to me but I guess not everyone is out partying it up every night...there are others in the same boat as I. I've also made it a point to focus on my school a little more. My grades have been kind of mediocore all year, but today I just worked on my resumes, assignments, group projects I got so much work done I'm feeling really good. Usually I spend like 3-4 hours a day playing this damn computer game but I feel like I'm so much more productive and I feel a lot better about myself when I'm accomplishing constructive tasks. Originally posted by d'Arthez I know it sounds simple, but you must make an effort. Without making an effort, you'd fail for sure. You don't want that! If you have an interest in art, do something with that. If you have an interest in dancing, do so. Et cetera. I'm tryin... Originally posted by moimeme Here's a grand answer to your issue. Some folks who lose their taste for life are depressed, but it doesn't sound as though you are... I hope not...because then that is something a lot more serious that I would have to deal with.
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