BluEyeL Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 I agree that perhaps 18 months is a bit early for him. I'd wait 2 years and open up the subject. Then see what he says, give him a bit more time but by 3 years should be enough time for him to know if you're the one. I understand that you don't want to be married just to be married, however, is more than OK to have marriage as something you want and the right man will have no reason not to marry you if he's knows that will make you happy and if he knows that you are the one he wants to grow old with.
BluEyeL Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 He does sound like he is not in any rush to marry you and he wants to keep the status quo at this time. But 18 months may not be enough, like I said. To be sure, I'd wait 2-3 years.
mightycpa Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 He does sound like he is not in any rush to marry you and he wants to keep the status quo at this time. But 18 months may not be enough, like I said. To be sure, I'd wait 2-3 years. Yeah, I kind of agree that 18 months might be too soon, except you've know him for 9 years, so that would shorten the cycle relative to how long it might take with a stranger. Anyway, you said no ultimatums for him, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't set deadlines for milestones. For example a proposal is one milestone, an engagement ring another, a wedding date a third, etc. You should probably decide on the latest acceptable dates now, while you are least emotional about it. Because when those days come, you're going to have to be your own best friend in order to follow through on walking. 1
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