Emilia Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 10 years has been the longest for me. I meet men who are in their 30s and have never had an LTR, in my experience they aren't usually honest with themselves why that is. They also tend to lack the desire to change anything, hence the failure to establish long term romantic relationships. Stands to reason.
irc333 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 10 years has been the longest for me. I meet men who are in their 30s and have never had an LTR, in my experience they aren't usually honest with themselves why that is. They also tend to lack the desire to change anything, hence the failure to establish long term romantic relationships. Stands to reason. Change anything is quite broad...change what? Anyways, most people don't change and thus the purpose of relationships and even marriage. You marry someone in spite of who they are, not because of who they are (or is that the other way around?) I am not sure, but everyone has their faults and one should be accepting of their faults and sadly, some people go into relationships thinking "I'll change him/her" then it doesn't happen and the relationship fails. You have to go into the relationship knowledgeable and accepting of the fact that the have these flaws. If you're not willing to engage in these people because of their flaws, then you shouldn't marry them.
Emilia Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Change anything is quite broad...change what? Anyways, most people don't change and thus the purpose of relationships and even marriage. You marry someone in spite of who they are, not because of who they are (or is that the other way around?) I am not sure, but everyone has their faults and one should be accepting of their faults and sadly, some people go into relationships thinking "I'll change him/her" then it doesn't happen and the relationship fails. You have to go into the relationship knowledgeable and accepting of the fact that the have these flaws. If you're not willing to engage in these people because of their flaws, then you shouldn't marry them. It's not about other people, it's about you. 2
irc333 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Is that your response to my entire post? It's not about other people, it's about you.
thefooloftheyear Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Right, no one can do anything about being dumped for no reason *shrug* There is always a reason.....some just fail to see it.... Just sayin' TFY
Giggle Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 (edited) It's a curiousity not a deal breaker. I'm not sure I actually have a deal breaker because I'm very open minded. I've been chatting with a 22 year old. He's 12 years by junior, which according to my bff is wrong of me. Lol. She's very judgemental. He even goes to church a lot, and considering I'm agnostic/pagan that could be considered a deal breaker. I'm not sure why he likes me Now the guy I had a date with before turned out to still be married. Separated 14 months. It was when she saw my car at his house and posted something on his Facebook wall.. And he felt the need to call her and go off.. That made me go.. Problem for me, sorry. On the other hand, I've got 5 kids and been married twice. That gets eyebrows too. But quite frankly anybody who has issue with my baggage isn't somebody I want in my life anyway. My longest was married 7 yrs, lived with another yr and were pretty serious another yr. Edited September 16, 2014 by Giggle
GorillaTheater Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Since the Carter administration. 1
Allumere Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 ...the one that mattered...not long enough. Dated 14 years, married another 10...the marriage was a joke. 1 year (casual, LDR) 6-7 months 9 months
writergal Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 2 years for me. It's not the length of the relationship that matters to me, but the quality. Plenty of people can be with someone for 10 years, and not be a good partner to their partner. Quality, not quantity. That's my motto. 1
WhiskeyJack Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 It really wouldn't matter much to me. The quality of a person isn't measured by how long or little their relationships have been. My longest was 5 years, and 2 years before that. 1
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