nguyener Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 I've ran into a huge obstacle lately, mainly because I started to look. You'd need some background info to help me: Just last year, I was a very unconfident man with little going for me. The girl that I now like sat next to me for a couple of weeks for an end of school cumulative project. At that time, I showed no interest whatsoever, but then again I was pretty lame so that didn't matter at all. The class would end with me saying like 2 lines to her. It was so bad that one time she tried to high five me and I awkwardly backhanded her with about 2 Newtons. I also never smiled and had unconfident posture. We go to a top ranked high school, btw, and we both try pretty hard academically (keep that in mind please.) The good thing, though, is that I managed to completely change over the summer. The things that I managed to establish to her, and I'm assuming that she likes me anyways, are: . I earned a paid internship at a good engineering company that I had to compete for . Her girlfriend actually got the job too, and since girls talk, I'm assuming she knows some details about me, which are I don't have a patriarchal head in my family or any other relatives nearby. Not sure how this helps, but I speculate it adds to my mysteriousness . I got a really good SAT score and have perfect grades (these matter a lot at my school) . In the very first days, I demonstrated clear confidence to her and then did so perfectly when I made a class speech for a position. it felt GREAT, btw. . I'm a lot more buff than competition. I also have runners fame because I did x-country and track a lot. . I learned Russian . I showed interest by talking to her . Better posture, eye contact So so far, I've built up incredible momentum because I'm completely different. I'm 100% sure she sees this and she shows classic liking behaviors. My problem is that I've hit a dry spell. I'm pretty inexperienced at dating and so far I've initiated convos with way more questions than statements. Even though I'm more confident, I'm still pretty quiet (is this good or bad?) Another big problem is that she's one of those girls that only have guy friends. She seems to be playing the jealousy game a lot while I'm around and I always go helpless. I'm fine if there's no guys around, though. Obvious weak fronts of mine are my reticence, dealing with her flirting w/ other guys, and talking to her outside of class. How do I seal the deal guys? She's a 10 but I really think if I take in all factors I can do this. Sorry for long post, prahm is coming (Gimme some tips, por favor)
Assasda Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Dude. YOU are a 10. Do you know why you are a 10, because you are so self aware. That is very very good. In my opinion, she should be impressed with you. Not the other way around. Congratulations in changing, and actually knowing what you need to work on. Not talking a lot is a good thing Anyway, Never focus on her talking to other guys, because you know that YOU are a special person, and she should be lucky for talking with you. You have a lot to offer. - What you do is, you talk about something with her, then you say, Hey, wanna finish this convo at lunch?, or hey, I like movies, I'm gonna see this movie wanna come? Then you might wanna get her phone number. By the way, Talk to different girls. - I know you think she's special, and she maybe. But talk to other women and see whats out there. It'll help your confidence in general. -And believe me when I say this, an 8 with a dirty mind and a kick-ass attitude is so much better than a 10. Look for quality women man. Keep us posted 2
LostOnes05 Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Listen to the advice above!! Good stuff Assasda! 1
Author nguyener Posted September 21, 2014 Author Posted September 21, 2014 So on thursday I managed to pull off this sweet liner: Me: Do you want some honey nut cheerios Her: No, thanks Me: Wait are you allergic to honey or something? Her: No Me: Oh, that makes sense, cause you're really sweet. Her: starts laughing Anyways, I'm pretty sure I put myself out there by now. Should I do more talking first before asking to lunch or what? Yes give me more tips on how to talk/act to her. Thanks!
PinkCarnations Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 (edited) You sound way too analytical. I think you should try to take it easy and just go with the flow rather than try to dissect the beginnings of a non-relationship. Looks like you have a lot going for you.. But that doesn't mean everything. For instance, I actively stray from the engineer-types because I noticed you guys tend to overthink things which makes interactions kinda awkward & unnatural.. Obviously a generalization but yeah.. Just a thought. Edited September 21, 2014 by PinkCarnations 1
Assasda Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 So on thursday I managed to pull off this sweet liner: Me: Do you want some honey nut cheerios Her: No, thanks Me: Wait are you allergic to honey or something? Her: No Me: Oh, that makes sense, cause you're really sweet. Her: starts laughing Anyways, I'm pretty sure I put myself out there by now. Should I do more talking first before asking to lunch or what? Yes give me more tips on how to talk/act to her. Thanks! that was just corny enough to be funny. Anyway OP, what do you enjoy doing? and how old are both of you? 1
Author nguyener Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 (edited) @Pink I think analyzing is just my way of compensating for awkwardness ._. @Assasda I like to watch movies, eat, and exercise. We're 18... So the people at my school hang in cliques. I want to talk to her outside of class but how do I come across as unobtrusive? So I want to ask her to lunch, but should I gauge her response first with, "Do you do anything at lunch?" I'd hate to miss escalation windows. Edited September 25, 2014 by nguyener unfinished thought
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