How do I get over someone so different and unusual?

[Emma1234]

I thought that i was fine when it first happened but things are slowly hitting me. I know i'm going to be ok, we all are, everyone heals from a broken heart, it's just time so that life can fill with new things that and perspective is given, but my problem, and it may sound ridiculous, is everything about HIM because he was so unusual.

 

He was everything I have ever imagined being with personality wise (apart from materialism and arrogance and selfishneess). He had something about him that I just adored and he was the most attractive man i've ever met, in such an unusual way. He adored me, it was a fairly mutual break up, it couldn't work with the distance and other huge factors, but i know he took it better than me as it was his life that was moving on. I've never met anyone like him in his personality or physical appearance. Other girls didn't seem to find him that attractive, he certainly was a certain type, but he was the sort of person that just got everything he wanted, sadly though he never appreciated anything. He got a dream job and I mean THE most incredible opportunity, which is just one example of things coming to him so easily. I just admire him, it's so strange, i feel almost unworthy of him and yet everyone always told me I was the kinder, lovlier, more attractive one even in the relationship and none of my friends understood what i saw in him.

 

It's such a strange mix of emotions right now. How do i get past this?

Thank you

[preraph]

I think you do have to take time to process it, but once you reach the point you're just going in circles and unable to come to terms, at that point, it's time to just summon your friends and tell them you need to start being very active and going out and staying busy and want them to come along. You need distraction. You will otherwise obsess too much. So these times when you're out doing fun things with or without friends, ban yourself from talking or thinking about him. Make new memories. The more fun you put between you and him, the less magnified his importance will be. This would be a great time to take a great vacation, somewhere new. Seeing the world always makes a failed love affair seem like a blip on a much larger screen that will be your life.

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

what ever you do after you feel better, is never compare or expect the same in another man. accept what you find as he is, as every guy is different in their own way.