quidproquo89 Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Hey guys, so I met a girl from Online dating yesterday. We have the same interests (films, tv shows, video gaming), both fairly introvert, animal orientated people. We went to a pub and chatted for three hours straight. Which was great. We have arranged to go to the zoo next weekend (weather permitting). Now that is a great activity based date that means we can have fun and concentrate convo on that as well as each other. Sounds simple, yet are there tips to making great (and in places hopefully funny) conversation when we covered a great many topics in date one and messaging leading to the date. We have spoken about interests in sport, film, tv, gaming, quirky hobbies, music, holidays. Our families, friends, pets, cars we own, career goals etc. I'd like to keep the convo fresh, fun and humorous, as I say we have covered a lot of topics and I worry that I may fall flat - want to avoid awkward silences at all costs. I'm a good conversationalist generally, but in a date situation hours and hours of convo uses up a lot of info. Sounds sad but I've made a list of all things she has told me to remember them. Thought I'd ask more detailed questions about hobbies she has mentioned. Like films, gaming and she collects things, so about that. Also asking more about her childhood and her fav spots in this county and across the world. Any tips on great convo after you know almost everything you need to know about someone would be greatly appreciated
preraph Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Read or watch the news. Watch both local, world and entertainment news. Some things will stick in your mind worth mentioning. Ask her her favorite tv show. Tell her about yours. Just ask what she likes to do, what she enjoys. She will like that. If you're nervous about running out of things to say, go do an activity that either keeps you from having to talk much or provides something to talk about: movie, zoo, skating, anything physical. 2
Jules Dash Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Reading the news every day alone should have you well covered. Cover all sections including entertainment. I also would listen to talk radio or podcasts where news is covered and opinions thrown around a lot.You kind of have to see yourself as a late night talk show host at times.
Fondue Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Read or watch the news. Watch both local, world and entertainment news. Some things will stick in your mind worth mentioning. Ask her her favorite tv show. Tell her about yours. Just ask what she likes to do, what she enjoys. She will like that. If you're nervous about running out of things to say, go do an activity that either keeps you from having to talk much or provides something to talk about: movie, zoo, skating, anything physical. This. This is important. That's how I handled many of my initial dates with dating prospects back when I was "looking." I'm not a great conversationalist (despite what my gf says), so I always stuck with planning dates that required minimal talking. Many times I would take my first dates to the arcade. Try that. It's fun, a great way to bond, and also a great way to get physical. For example, if she does well in an arcade game (like you guys play some sort of gun shooting thing), you can high five each other for playing well. Or better yet, tease! If you're competing with one another, push her gun out of the way, block the screen, tickle her. Whatever! Just get involved and make it fun! If you're having a good time, so will she. My girlfriend was/is incredibly introverted. The first few months were HARD. I needed to kind of guide our fun. But the one thing that remained constant was, if I was having a good time, so was she. So whatever date you choose, go and have fun yourself. She will love to go along with you on that.
Mister Zen Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 You're trying way too hard dude. The date isn't all about impressing the girl. Its also for you to observe her and see if she is someone YOU even like. I don't try to make conversation on dates. I try to learn as much about the person I'm with as possible. By the second date you know you're at least interested. So now its about having fun and getting closer. You don't need a non-stop conversation either. Usually on the second date I talk less and let the girl do some work. This is also when you want to start getting more touchy feely (if you haven't already). If you keep your hands to yourself too long.. you will be friend zoned. 2
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 A good website I was reading noted that the first date is about establishing/affirming chemistry, but the second date is about testing that chemistry. The second date is where the questions can come out about ex-partners, sexual history, family issues, etc. as both sides try to test whether a) there's baggage; and b) more importantly how that person handles their baggage. The goal on the second date is to affirm that you two still have chemistry regardless of your past experiences.
Assasda Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Be comfortable in the silence. Much better than awkward silence
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Think up 3-4 really good questions in advance & trot them out if it wouldn't be an awkward abrupt conversation changer. At the zoo you can talk about the animals. You can share your 1st memories of zoo visits as a child. You cal talk about what you wanted to be when you grew up because every child spends a little while considering becoming a veterinarian
mightycpa Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 "Hey honey, what's your name again?" Sorry, I couldn't resist. I find that asking people about them leads to nice conversations. People like the feeling that you're generally interested in them. Where were they born? Big family? Education? Job? Sports? and then drill down and ask more whenever you find a topic they seem to brighten up about. You'll also learn one more thing - is this the kind of person who only likes to talk about themself, or will they reciprocate, and ask about you? Or, will they have nothing much to say? There may be some awkward moments of silence, but if you click with somebody, the conversation may never end. Have fun!
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