Color Choices and Thoughts on Them

[disneygogetter]

Do your family and friends have something against you dating a certain race or wanting you to stick to your own race? What are your thoughts on these situations?

 

I've always heard Whites prefer their race to date other Whites, Blacks with Blacks, while other races don't seem to care about what happens with their race when it comes to dating, relationships, and marriages.

 

I myself have always stuck to dating either White or Mexican only dated one Korean have not dated any other race.

 

What are your thoughts?

[Emissary]

My family would probably lose their **** if I dated a Chinese girl. I have my reservations about Chinese-Canadian culture, but the rest of my family despises them almost. We had all the family together again for a week, and as soon as we're together it seems inevitable that we're going to sit down to our usual war council about how to deal with "cultural inequality"

[No Limit]

My witch-grandmother trained all her negative-ness onto my mother. So if I ever dated a black guy, Turkish guy, "too tall" guy, guy with a beard or a bald guy she'd probably get a heart attack, take me off any heritage lists and bother me with "He isn't right for you"-talk whenever possible.

 

How ironic that my father is a darker-colored guy from an Eastern country. Guess my mom got mommy issues, but considering what my grandma is like, I can't blame her racism.

 

I'm open for all races or skin colors; not for every ideal and character though. And if I ever had a BF my mother wouldn't agree on, well, too bad. Won't hinder me in the slightest.

[LostOnes05]

Good for you No Limit! I'm an African-American guy and my family has no care in the world about the ethnicity of the person I date. As long as they treat you well and with respect, what does it matter? Lots of people have a preconceived notion that anything other than "self" must be wrong or won't work out. It all has to do with the 2 people in that relationship. When grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, even mom and dad start to influence your dating or marriage decisions (given the guy/girl isn't giving signs of cheating, beating, or otherwise using you), their decisions based on the social construct of race should be null and void. I have definitely heard of Asians being very open to whites but not blacks. I worked with an Asian woman back in the day that was really cool and down-to-earth. What concerned me was that she was open to dating anyone, but her parents would not approve of her dating a black person (only asian or white). Love and commonality cross color barriers and I think it would be an absolute shame to rule out dating or marrying someone because of the color of their skin.

[disneygogetter]

Yeah its what counts that matters not the color of your skin.

[Priv]

I think it depends which country you are from. I am Dutch but my mum is from the Carribean, which is probably one of the most 'colorful' of the worlds regions so dating outside my own ethnicity was never a problem. And have a lot when studying abroad and being president of the international society (best time of my life).

 

 

Just looking in general, I see a lot of black guys with white women and are quite in demand I think. Black women in my age range I basically never see (where are you fine ladies? ) besides one family friend who is married to a white man. Middle Eastern/Asian descent tend to stick together. And sad to say, but Middle/Latin America are far and few between in the Netherlands unless a tourist. Very sad indeed .

 

 

But that the races aren't more integrated probably has a lot to do with most being 1st-2nd-3rd generation immigrants, they don't have a rich history in the Netherlands which is predominantly white (regardless of what some populist politiciants would like you to believe).

 

 

Some race combinations would be looked at weirdly over here, mostly Middle Eastern anything from both sides and maybe black woman - white man. But what from I understand that is pretty much the same in America.

[taiko]

 

 

Some race combinations would be looked at weirdly over here, mostly Middle Eastern anything from both sides and maybe black woman - white man. But what from I understand that is pretty much the same in America.

The Middle Eastern combination is not racial in America. In the movie and play West Side Story the character Arab was part of the White gang. It is religious as Islam is more of a minority faith and is seen as requiring more faking from non believers than Christianity does.

 

As we are moving 30 years past "white flight" and defacto segregation even the most unlikely pairings, Black woman with an other than Black man and Asian man with a woman outside of his ethnic group is becoming more normal. In big cities, near military bases and college towns nobody will notice a thing

[RonaldS]

Most people in my family are pretty small-town/rural, provincial and ignorant. They dislike most races outside of white, and essentially hate blacks. The girl I've been hanging out with is black, so my family is pretty much sh*t out of luck, I guess. Fortunately, I stopped listening to them and caring what they thought when I was a kid.

[Candy_Pants]

I come from a family of closeted racists. They might pretend to be "cool" and "tolerant" but they have hateful and ignorant things to say about anyone who isn't White.

 

Which is kind of hilarious because we aren't White...we're Native American, Hispanic, and Mediterranean.

 

So whenever they told me I needed to find a man within my race I'd look at them and think ":confused::laugh:".

[Mr Scorpio]

The younger members of my family wouldn't care. There are attractive people from every race. Life is a buffet. Enjoy it.

[Emilia]

No-one is my family would care. I'm sure some 80 year-old uncles in their tiny villages would be surprised initially but none of them would care.

[Haydn]

When i saw the thread title i thought it would be about clashing clothes or whether black always makes you look thin.

 

Really who cares what hue someone is? If they ring your bell then go for it and sod what anyone else thinks. (Unless you are Austrian)

[Natsu21]

When i saw the thread title i thought it would be about clashing clothes or whether black always makes you look thin.

 

Really who cares what hue someone is? If they ring your bell then go for it and sod what anyone else thinks. (Unless you are Austrian)

 

My small town does.

 

I'm an African American. My first girlfriend was white, did it mull over with her parents? HELL NO. They even invited me to their house but her mom was talking bad about me behind my back, saying "You sure you wanna be with this guy. Their cultures might be different? And how is he going to provide for you?" Then there was the case that she lived in an urban area and I lived in a poor(I mean really poor) town.

 

In the state of Alabama, while people don't legally practice segregation, it's become more of a social construct to separate the races. That's why you will RARELY, RARELY see a neighborhood that has more than one race here.

 

For a lot of the Caucasians in this state, while they do not outright say it, the younger generation will want to tell you that they are not socially allowed to date outside their race, unless their family members and possibly friends may cut them off, and for a lot of them, family is very important.

 

My family doesn't really care about race. My ex's, however, made it their business to degrade me.

 

Truth is I love women of all ethnicities and backgrounds. It's their personalities I love(though if we are going by looks, I love multi-racial girls, ahem *Candy Pants* I'm looking at you.) However, living in the South, the Deep South(Alabama, Mississippi, Louisisana) that is still frowned upon.

 

Especially when it comes to the women.

 

I'd be lying if I didn't say it didn't frustrate me. Because it does, to no end.

 

Tell me how you feel when at every turn, you're surrounded by girls who said "God doesn't want the races to mix, if he did they wouldn't be separated?" Yes, folks, that's the kind of culture I'm surrounded by.

One of the main reasons why I miss New York City.

[Toodaloo]

When i saw the thread title i thought it would be about clashing clothes or whether black always makes you look thin.

 

 

Glad I am not the only one! So much for getting tips eh