sid3 Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Good god you are an adult, just tell the poor bastard he needs to cool down on the texts because you find it over whelming, and don't have the time for it because of school. wow why is it so hard to just say it. This site is full of threads of people asking "what is going on with them, or what does their lack of response means?" Just be honest, clear the air so everyone can carry on with their day. Quoted for truth. 1
Author girlywoman25 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 The more you wait, the less interested he will be in meeting with you! What if by the time you're ready, he no longer cares? Or worse, what if you're "ready," you meet him, and he's not what you expect. Are you waiting to "like" him? If so, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. It's much better just meet them ASAP and go from there. Trust me. One of the first women I met from OLD was like that. She wanted to wait for a few weeks. She was definitely not what I expected. I was disappointed and dropped her soon after. I'm sure she was hurt because she already built a connection with me (she was really, really upset once I told her we're not going to meet again). I was disappointed because she wasn't what I thought she was. From that point on, I made it a rule to get a girl's # within 4 messages and then take her out on a date later that week. That way you just get it over with and see if you click. Although I agree with you but we agreed to meet in a couple weeks. I am going to ask if we can meet soon. The thing is he doesn't have the money right now. He doesn't have a stable job, he's self employed but looking for a decent job and is in college. He supports himself from the SSI checks and food stamps he receives.
dumbass2 Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Although I agree with you but we agreed to meet in a couple weeks. I am going to ask if we can meet soon. The thing is he doesn't have the money right now. He doesn't have a stable job, he's self employed but looking for a decent job and is in college. He supports himself from the SSI checks and food stamps he receives. how old is this man and has he been married before? Do you have any "deal breakers" in place so you don't waste your time once you find out someone has one of them? One of my deal breakers is more than 2 kids still living at home and under 18. Anther is they have to have a job or some type of solid income. In communicating with this man, are there any red flags that you see as being potential deal breakers? If so, then don't continue on. 1
Author girlywoman25 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 how old is this man and has he been married before? Do you have any "deal breakers" in place so you don't waste your time once you find out someone has one of them? One of my deal breakers is more than 2 kids still living at home and under 18. Anther is they have to have a job or some type of solid income. In communicating with this man, are there any red flags that you see as being potential deal breakers? If so, then don't continue on. He is 26 and never married. He has no children. I like how things are going so far and don't see any red flags.
ThorntonMelon Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 I would think a red flag is he's showing you a lot of attention and your reaction isn't that positive. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 I just had to let one go for this, I told him from the start I was busy and he text, text, text I received 12 messages in 6 hours and they got more the more I couldnt reply by the time I was able to reply I was totally put off, I tried explaining very nicely and he argued about it so I said I cant really see this working out and I am very sorry but I think we are looking for different things and he went MENTAL at me! x I think its a sign of obsessiveness and that was made clear by the way he reacted x 1
Author girlywoman25 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 I would think a red flag is he's showing you a lot of attention and your reaction isn't that positive. Well now he has cut down on the texting. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Be straight with him. Tell him, hey I appreciate & am flattered by the level of interest but you are overwhelming me. I don't have the type of job where I can be on my phone all day so it bothers me when you send multiple messages. I don't want to hurt your feelings but I would be more comfortable if you toned it down a bit. 1
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