Natsu21 Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Starting to get annoyed. I decided to agree to a date by this girl. Was all excited for it too. This has happened before a couple of months ago but I let it slide. She's a college student. I had doubts with going on a date with her and enjoying myself for these reasons. 1. She always said that she'll go where the wind takes her and that planning for the future isn't her thing. So she doesn't want to settle down. 2. She tends to like to go clubbing a lot. 3. She's 20 and has a penchant for guys in uniform and the beach. Knew all of this and went for it anyway. She agrees to go on a date with me the first time and we did. Then I ask her on a second date and she agreed , re-negged last minute...she had a good excuse but a while later...saw a status of hers online that said "This is wack. Why isn't it easy to go from friends to more than friends? I wish he'd notice me." I asked her about it and twice she said it was no big deal and that she was drunk. So I kept asking and she said that she met a guy that she REALLY liked...but didn't like her back. So when I said "Cool, have fun. " she said she liked me a lot too, but I said I had to go. So she texted me the following week saying she missed me and I said "Out with a friend." she kept asking if person was female, I said "yes" And she calls me up, I ignore it the first time. Then I got home and called her back, and she asks me out again. She then, a week later, texts me saying that she's got bills to pay and studying to do, so can she take a rain check. She apologized. Last night, though, she was out with friends...not studying. If we had planned the date she would have done that on a day other day. Second time it's been canceled.... So guys, she lives about an hour away from me. We had a conversation one time where she said that things would be easier if I lived closer. Because he's there and I'm not. If I was there she'd date me exclusively. So tell me guys, something I probably already know. I just need to hear it from you guys before I get weak and end up changing my mind.
mightycpa Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 You go first. You know what to say, and it would be better for you to declare it, rather than have us convince you. Go ahead, you can do it.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 (edited) You go first. You know what to say, and it would be better for you to declare it, rather than have us convince you. Go ahead, you can do it. I'll go with "She needs a backup boytoy, cause the guy she really wants isn't into her. Although she claims women can like more than one guy at the same time, in reality, they can have fun with a couple and be REALLY into one. There's always a favorite, and you're not it. Take the loss, she's young and loves the attention, get your ass off meeting online girls cause this **** keeps happening, go out and meet some real women, and stop messing with these stupid girls. Raise your standards!" ^What my conscience just screamed at me. Edited September 13, 2014 by Natsu21 2
mightycpa Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 There you go boss. That felt pretty good, didn't it? 1
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 There you go boss. That felt pretty good, didn't it? Still feel kinda crappy tho. But she's been texting me and I'm ignoring it. 1
mightycpa Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 See if she wants to drive over an hour to your place. Ha!
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 See if she wants to drive over an hour to your place. Ha! Actually, she did that on our first date.
HappyLove Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Your conscience is BRILLIANT! Now listen to it!
Themanwithaplan Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 You could always put up with her lameness and eventually go all the way with her when she has the time for you. Maybe try calling the day of and ask her out spontaneously instead of trying to plan it a week beforehand. I was never good at being a backup plan though... Been there though, and even knew that she was into open relationships. Don't ever expect a lion to be an elephant. Terrible analogy, get off my case.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 You could always put up with her lameness and eventually go all the way with her when she has the time for you. Maybe try calling the day of and ask her out spontaneously instead of trying to plan it a week beforehand. I was never good at being a backup plan though... Been there though, and even knew that she was into open relationships. Don't ever expect a lion to be an elephant. Terrible analogy, get off my case. If I was getting laid, I'd put up with it, but that's it. I'M NOT...and he clearly IS. What the heck am I getting out of it? Oh and you mean "A tiger doesn't change its stripes overnight" Dude, online dating will discourage you a lot of times. But I live in one of those small racist backwoods towns. So I put up with it.
StanMusial Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 I'll go with "She needs a backup boytoy, cause the guy she really wants isn't into her. Although she claims women can like more than one guy at the same time, in reality, they can have fun with a couple and be REALLY into one. There's always a favorite, and you're not it. Take the loss, she's young and loves the attention, get your ass off meeting online girls cause this **** keeps happening, go out and meet some real women, and stop messing with these stupid girls. Raise your standards!" ^What my conscience just screamed at me. How old are you Natsu? If you just went out tonight and put in some effort you could meet girls that live nearby. I wouldn't mess with some random girl that lives an hour away unless I had a good reason to, which I see no reason at all in this. Never mind, I just saw your last post.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 How old are you Natsu? If you just went out tonight and put in some effort you could meet girls that live nearby. I wouldn't mess with some random girl that lives an hour away unless I had a good reason to, which I see no reason at all in this. 23. And read my above comment. You'll kinda understand. I know, this sounds like an excuse. But...well. It's the truth. The area I live in is a hilbilly town. Dating? Yeah right, unless you wanna get shot or laughed at by girls who love hard "thugs" There's no social gatherings in this town no gyms... A small library that hardly anyone goes to but elderly women... 15 churches... 3 grocery stores 2 fast food restaurants... and only 2,000 people in town. Nearest city is 100 miles away. look up "Butler, AL" on a map.
gaius Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Don't accept a date offer seriously again because she's not into you like that. At least as much as she is another guy. But if you enjoy the attention then feel free to bask in it. Nothing wrong with that.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 Well the dude's military. She's a 250 lb chick who is miffed that guys like him(dude's pretty well cut) doesn't want girls like her. 1
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 I'm just a computer tech guy who is going back to school.
StanMusial Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Well the dude's military. She's a 250 lb chick who is miffed that guys like him(dude's pretty well cut) doesn't want girls like her. LOL. Damn. I have been to Monroeville several times so if it compares I sympathize.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 LOL. Damn. I have been to Monroeville several times so if it compares I sympathize. Monroeville, Alabama? Compares, it's about the same size, actually. So you know my pain and can imagine the kind of girls that live there. So you would also understand why I would turn to online dating as well, lol. Actually, Butler is smaller than Monroeville.
mightycpa Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 I couldn't even find a school there, other than high school, with my quick google search. So, I guess the advice is 1) Graduate 2) GTF outta there and if you're similarly overweight 3) chop some wood, carry some bricks, run or do whatever the **** they do down there that's physical besides banging fatties. Good luck OP.
StanMusial Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Monroeville, Alabama? Compares, it's about the same size, actually. So you know my pain and can imagine the kind of girls that live there. So you would also understand why I would turn to online dating as well, lol. Actually, Butler is smaller than Monroeville. Yeah, I stopped going after an incident with our corporate jet at the Montgomery airport.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 I couldn't even find a school there, other than high school, with my quick google search. So, I guess the advice is 1) Graduate 2) GTF outta there and if you're similarly overweight 3) chop some wood, carry some bricks, run or do whatever the **** they do down there that's physical besides banging fatties. Good luck OP. Actually. That's the thing.... I'm not ripped but I'm fit. I'm not overweight at all. I would post a picture to prove it to you. And lol. Actually. I'm leaving home next month. I usually run/walk 6 miles and back and lift giant sticks and bricks just to pass the time.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 Yeah, I stopped going after an incident with our corporate jet at the Montgomery airport. That...tends to happen.
mightycpa Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 I'd love to see a picture .... No, I'm just kidding about that. I didn't know, so I thought I'd just mention it. I assume the pickings are slim down there, unlike the girls.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 (edited) I'd love to see a picture .... No, I'm just kidding about that. I didn't know, so I thought I'd just mention it. I assume the pickings are slim down there, unlike the girls. Pickings? Let me see... 1. Racist town. 2. Look on a map and see if you can find jobs there. 3. Nearest city is bigger but just as bad. 4. I repeat, NO JOBS. I've been trying to apply for work here for 3 years and nothing's happening. The most I could do is yard care, and trust me, people don't pay you enough and you're bitten, stung, and sweaty and tired at the end of it. As for the girls...truth is the good looking ones are either racist or stuck on themselves(I'm African American) I don't mean the "I'm not attracted to black people" kind of girls. They don't exist here. It's the "God doesn't want the race mixing and thinks it's a horrible sin just like homosexuality but my husband and I are getting divorced and I'm banging his brother" kind of girls, as well as the typical country ghetto. The rare gems have already left. Slim pickings indeed. The majority of my family members who left did so and became homeless, because they couldn't make money in town without doing some dirt, but they worked their way up and then found places to live and now they're doing fine for themselves. I'm leaving too. Just got to figure out where to go to start over. Edited September 14, 2014 by Natsu21
Author Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 Which reminds me, i need to upload a profile picture. There, it's done. See...told you. I'm not overweight. But you can kinda understand the problem I might have with women here, now that you can see my face, mightycpa
Themanwithaplan Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 I'm leaving too. Just got to figure out where to go to start over. Well at least you know what you want, plus you're still really young. Move to the city...Not the one in AL by your town, but one on the east or west coast. You could throw a rock out of your window in New York City or San Francisco and hit a couple hot chicks. They are everywhere. Overwhelming really. 1
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