kojack Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Hi all. I thought I'd post my situation, try and get a little input. I found out that this girl at work likes me. This was great news to me because I always thought this girl was cute. According to my friend, she was asking all kinds of questions about me, like she seemed really interested. I made the effort over the next few weeks to talk to her a lot at work, but I felt like she wasn't being very receptive. I decided to talk to her friend, who told me that this girl thought I was the one who seemed unreceptive; she thought I wasn't interested in her. I told her friend to tell her that wasn't the case at all. So the other night my best friend tells me that he talked to the girl at work, and she's still interested in you. Good. I talk to the girl's friend again, she tells me you've got the thumbs up. So the next day at work I say to the girl we should hang out sometime. She says she has to shop this weekend. That's it. No "but maybe next weekend," nothing. Am I missing something here? I'm leaning towards the explanation that after talking to me a few times, she's decided that I'm just a boring person. Any advice would be appreciated.
tiki Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Maybe she really has to shop this weekend? But all weekend - geeze. Did you ask her if she was busy the following weekend?
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 If she's telling her friends she wants to go out with you, and she cuts you cold like that one of two things is probably happening: 1. the "HJNTIY" (He's Just Not That Into You) approach: make the guy work to show how hard he IS into her - (this approach is used by women who read that book and act in ways that they think will make a guy 'pursue and set up a formal specific date preferably before Wednesday' based on what they read in that book. That book encourages turning down guys who just want to "hang out" or who don't arrange dates several days in advance.) 2. she told her friends that she liked you to placate them, and really doesn't want to go out with you All you can do is try again, or ask if you can have her number to arrange a date the next weekend. If she shuts you down after that, then you'll pretty much know then that its a lost cause.
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