tornangel Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 (edited) I havent been on here in forever . I feel like the biggest moron alive. My son is now 5 years old. His dad and I have been off and on forever. Well more like me thinking I am with him and him lying. He moved 2 hours to be two blocks from me and our son, and we tried to date serious again and he cheated for the 1000th time. He always lies, then gets mad and blames me when caught saying I cheated once( years ago). Its hard cuz it always continues, he plays games stopping by my house constantly to see his kid, or drop him off so he can go party . I feel so dang pathetic even writing this : ( Yesterday he brought his son over and then dropped him off , on his day with him and then went out and said before he left that he is sorry for being such a crappy cheating person. And he would text me the next morning to get his son. Well he didnt text til 8 pm the next day saying he had wanted to text me all day. I told him to fall off a dam cliff and he said I was crazy. Then later he said he had been crying and upset all day and night for treating us so bad. I have told him the last few months to leave me alone bc he has no good intentions and cant commit. I am completely drained and when he comes by I dont want my son seeing us fight , cuz he just knocks on the door. He doesnt see his kid when he is supposed to and its just getting annoying. I just want to move on and he continues to lie lie lie . I feel completely pathetic, dont want to hate him but find myself hating him : ( I know he cant be who we deserve and I cant believe a word he says cuz his actions never match. Any man who actually loved us wouldnt leave to party . And wouldnt ignore us. Im sad, eventho I have been used to it and lonely for so many years. I just dont know how to get him to leave me alone. I feel like something is really wrong with me. Its been 7 yrs of this crap. Edited September 13, 2014 by tornangel
95areoin9 Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Although I'm much younger than you, I hate seeing people get tossed around like they are worthless. In short, he does not deserve you. If I were you, I would let him visit your son as he pleases because it is important in the boy's life to have a mother and father. But I would also cut off contact with the husband and have some fun with your lady friends, occasionally venturing into bars/concerts or whatever interests you to maybe find another guy for you.
Author tornangel Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 Thanks, I know I have been tossed around forevr. I know I only have myself to blame. It just gets difficult bc he tries to stop by my house frequently, gets in my fridge , sits on my couch etc, and wants to be friends. when I tell him no to the friends, he uses our son or says he misses me and wants me in his life. I dont want my son being confused about us, And I feel he already is : ( His dad never keeps a girl, he is a player. Im just burned out and contemplating therapy at this point.
Author tornangel Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 I told him to make a schedule , which he said he cant do cuz of his job. I know it sounds crazy but I feel trapped. He doesnt want me , he has neglected me for freaking yrs. I just want my life back, I dont want him in it. It doesnt hurt so much anymore cuz he has played with my head so long.
beach Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Get the court to order strict visitation. If he doesn't see the child he will need to wait until the next time. And do you have support ordered by the court? If not, do that too. You can also require a specific place for pick up - drop off (like a police station) so he doesn't come to your house. He sounds like a druggy, is he? 1
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