Samms22 Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 (edited) My story begins about 2 weeks ago, when my waiter at a restaurant said that another waitress thought I was cute. He coaxed her into giving me her number. Long story short, we texted for about a week (because she was in Hawaii) and really hit it off. We would send each other these massive novel length responses. It was great. We have the same sense of humor, say the same things almost at the same time and make the same jokes, etc. Even her co-worker said we talk and think the same. I believe this to be the case, mostly, but I will admit that we are different in a lot of respects. Our first date was magic. It lasted 9 hours. Dinner, failed activity (which was fun) and then the beach. Our second date was 15 hours long, talking and laughing most of the time. We cuddled on her couch at the end of the date and talked/slept. No sex. Fast forward to yesterday. I had breakfast with her at her house which was technically our third date. Last night, she came over to my house for our 4th date. I made her dinner. We had a great time, same chemistry and same atmosphere. We were cuddling in my room and we both started talking about the elephant in the room, something that we both wanted to deny -- she was leaving for school at the end of this month. We both knew this going into it, and we had a conversation about us both not being stupid, but spending time with each other anyways. At the end of the conversation, entwined as we were in my bed, we both decided that basically this would be the last time hanging out together. If we continued to hang out, our logic said that we would just deepen what we "have" and it would be harder to say good-bye. I asked her if she wanted to rip off the bandaid or go at it gradutally, etc. and she said to rip it of. Here's what you guys need to know: -It's mutual. I do NOT want a long distance relationship, especially because of her age (20) and my age (24) and the fact that she will be going away to school. -I don't feel like either of us was dishonest to one another about the cause of breaking it off. We did move fast in certain areas, but she was comfortable with all of it. She even looked up at the ceiling and almost cursed god because of the timing of when we met, etc. -The school thing was always in the back of her mind and it bothered her, but when she told me she was much more affectionate and relaxed. -She openly stated that she didn't want to move to school, that it was causing her an inordinate amount of stress and that her dad was pushing her into it. I offered counter suggestions to going to this school, etc., with the intent that she does what's best for herself, taking me out of the equation. Look, I know I've only known this girl for 2 or 2 and a half weeks and have only hung out with her off and on for a week, but we made a real connection. Walking her to her car for the last time this morning was absolutely terrible. I feel sad. So, here's where I need advice. I've already deleted and hidden all of the photos on my phone so I can't see them. Should I block her number, delete all of her calls and texts and go No Contact? We left off saying that if we needed each other, we could always call one another. While this is true, I really care about her and will miss her texts, etc. I don't think I could stand not knowing if she texted me or not, but the idea of being anxious every time I get a text is intolerable, at least until that goes away. Also, if I don't block her then there is always the weird "hope" thing that goes into it. What if she texts me saying she made a mistake and wants to hang out before she leaves? What if she texts me during thanksgiving and wants to hang out because she's here for break? Etc. Please let me know what you guys think. Edited September 12, 2014 by Samms22
mightycpa Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Tough one. If she goes away to school, she will meet somebody there. If you've been to college, you know that. Maybe you have one more heart to heart with her: Matilda, I know what school is like, you'll like guys and I just can't stick around to watch you be with them. I don't want to be the lonely guy back home wondering if this is the weekend I'm going to get dumped. I know we can't make any serious promises now, but starting the day you graduate, on the very first day you're available, I want you to call me. Keep my number somewhere you won't lose it. I know that seems like a long way off, but I think we have a spark, and our timing isn't right yet. So let's do it that way, and you can have fun at school and get whatever you need to out of your system. Maybe the timing will be better later. It couldn't hurt.
Author Samms22 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Good idea, but that was more or less already explained. More so the meeting guys part.
mightycpa Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Good idea, but that was more or less already explained. More so the meeting guys part. Yeah I missed the part where you told her to not forget you and call when she's done with school. All I could figure out was the part where you said "BYE". I promise you if you do something like that, she'll remember sometime after she graduates, especially if you send her a decent grad gift to jog her memory. She may chicken out too, so you should anticipate it, and address it: "And Matilda, I know you're going to think about this conversation and feel weird about calling... like you won't know if I still want to hear from you. I will, so put whatever fears you may have aside, and just call. Don't worry." Anyway, you don't have many other options, do you?
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