I have to move back to where we lived

[Emma1234]

Next week I'm moving back to the place where pretty much every single memory is and I'll be back around the joint group of friends doing everything that we did together. Most of the people in this group are couples together including my best friend. It's a close knit group, a sports team, and we go out drinking quite a lot, millions of memories, everything just everything is there. The fun, the love, the times.

 

Everything. He has moved hours and hours away now. I know I'm ok, but everything about me has just been messed up. I don't know who I am emotionally and physically. I don't know what I want to look like as strange as that sounds, psychologically i wonder whether that's because i know i wasn't his type and yet he was so completely mine. Emotionally, ah I don't know. I'm know it'll all be fine, my life will move on. I miss him but he didn't treat me right, yup i also love him but i am trying to focus on getting past it all.

 

I just don't know how to cope with the memories and getting past the absolutely incredible times. i'm never going to meet anyone like him. It's going to be so hard going back, doing all the same things with the same people that I just loved because of him. Please help someone, I just want to cry all the time when I'm just thinking about it

[True Gent]

Why put such a huge downer on your personal well being by telling yourself you won't meet anyone like him? Not like him no, different and a better fit for yourself yes! You must remember that this happened for a reason and it just wasn't completely right. Take him off the pedestal.

 

Moving back is bound to trigger memories, do you really 'HAVE' to go back there? If this group are really great friends of yours, then they should be willing to give you some support during this and hopefully understand how hard it is for you. Look towards making fresh memories with your friends, he doesn't play any part in that.

[Emma1234]

Thank you for your words, I know it's putting a downer on things, thoughts like that always crop up though because he was really so unusual.

I do have to move back for study sadly, and that's a good idea, I'll talk to them about it and how it may be hard.

[d0nnivain]

Stay apart from the group at 1st. Find new things to do. Join a different team. Patronize new stores that opened since you have been gone.

 

You left & came back. You are different. He's gone. That town is different.

 

Yes there will be some memories but focus on the future.