dumbass2 Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 So the dumpee asks to set up to get his cloths and stuff back that same night from the dumper and then he sends a reminder text a few days later and then they meet and he gets his stuff. What is the dumper possibly thinking that night of the break up when he texts that he should get his stuff back sooner rather than later and is so far handling the break up well?
johnson_j Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 So the dumpee asks to set up to get his cloths and stuff back that same night from the dumper and then he sends a reminder text a few days later and then they meet and he gets his stuff. What is the dumper possibly thinking that night of the break up when he texts that he should get his stuff back sooner rather than later and is so far handling the break up well? Nothing. It should be done immediately (within 1-2 wks). Dragging it out just is a measure to keep some control/tabs on the situation.
mightycpa Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 So the dumpee asks to set up to get his cloths and stuff back that same night from the dumper and then he sends a reminder text a few days later and then they meet and he gets his stuff. What is the dumper possibly thinking that night of the break up when he texts that he should get his stuff back sooner rather than later and is so far handling the break up well? She's probably thinking "That was easy." Maybe wondering why they didn't just go back and get the stuff and get it done and over with. She's not thinking, "Oh, no, he took me seriously! What do I do now?", if that was your question. 1
Author dumbass2 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 (edited) She's probably thinking "That was easy." Maybe wondering why they didn't just go back and get the stuff and get it done and over with. She's not thinking, "Oh, no, he took me seriously! What do I do now?", if that was your question. No, would just like to think that I handled it in a mature way on my end. When the words came out of her mouth without even talking about stuff, I thought to myself, "that's it, it's over". I took the first month very well, but then kinda fell off the wagon later down the road. She did ask me when I got myself if i was seeing someone. Probably because I didn't fight it and took it so well? I was just curious what people might think. This did happen 4 months ago and I still reflect back at my actions and I know I shouldn't. I tell myself that I tried to get over it so fast in order to not feel the pain and then it hit me later on. Edited September 12, 2014 by dumbass2
mightycpa Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 No, would just like to think that I handled it in a mature way on my end. It sounds like you did. The need to repeat the story is a common tell... it tells me you're not quite over it yet, still dwelling on it somewhat, doing a little second guessing. You did fine. Keep up the good fight!
NoLeafClover Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 When I sent my dumper her **** back she went ballistic saying all kinds of thing to me ..I think that's when I became the dumper 1
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