Author a_v_i_k Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 you can call her again and because women need who care her Thanks for the advise. I will leave the poor girl alone though. I did enough already and all I could under the circumstances. I agree that calling and apologizing is better than texting, but I already texted an apology, to which she replied with goodbye. As was written here, although I did a mistake, I don't think it was a deal breaker if the girl was truly interested. Yes, I was pushy, impulsive and over-reacted, but I didn't say anything bad. Of course I'm sorry for my mistake and it will never happen again, but if she wasn't that interested to begin with, then it doesn't really matter. It's hard for me to believe that if I hadn't done that mistake, we could eventually fall in love, get married, etc. True love is blind to stupid mistakes and that's what I am looking for.
BlueIris Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 As was written here, although I did a mistake, I don't think it was a deal breaker if the girl was truly interested. Yes, I was pushy, impulsive and over-reacted, but I didn't say anything bad. Of course I'm sorry for my mistake and it will never happen again, but if she wasn't that interested to begin with, then it doesn't really matter. It's hard for me to believe that if I hadn't done that mistake, we could eventually fall in love, get married, etc. True love is blind to stupid mistakes and that's what I am looking for. No. For a HUGE number of women, it's a deal breakers even with a guy they otherwise like so far. And, no, love is not blind, and shouldn't be for you either. Don't continue dating someone who loses it at you, especially this early. 1
Mister Zen Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 If I "ignore" someone, it's often because I want to think of a good response - some of us really care about the quality of our communication. Or I have a headache and I can't really deal with the phone then. Or I am visiting with someone and it's extremely rude to ignore the person you are with in favor of your phone unless it's an emergency. You jump to a lot of conclusions, and I'll bet that that hurts your social life, or will, if you have one! You need days to "think" about a response? Sounds like manipulation to me. Anyone who is genuine doesn't need to "think" about what to say to people for days. If you are being yourself you will be honest with people... which requires little thought. And even if you have guests.. you can still send text messages or have short calls for a few minutes. I've done this. I call the person back and say: "I'm entertaining people, but I'll call you back". This stuff isn't rocket science. Its not that hard to be polite and curious to the people you date. Unless of course you just don't give a crap. And non-responsiveness is always a sign that you either don't care or you are manipulating. 99% of the time. 1
Jules Dash Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 No. For a HUGE number of women, it's a deal breakers even with a guy they otherwise like so far. And, no, love is not blind, and shouldn't be for you either. Don't continue dating someone who loses it at you, especially this early. I agree that it is a deal breaker. You showed a tendency to blow up rather easily even if alcohol induced. She doesn't know if you were actually drunk or not and even if you did she would likely wonder if you had a drinkinv problem. I think it's alright to wait at least a day before becoming concerned about a text reply even at all.
StanMusial Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Thanks for the advise. I will leave the poor girl alone though. I did enough already and all I could under the circumstances. I agree that calling and apologizing is better than texting, but I already texted an apology, to which she replied with goodbye. As was written here, although I did a mistake, I don't think it was a deal breaker if the girl was truly interested. Yes, I was pushy, impulsive and over-reacted, but I didn't say anything bad. Of course I'm sorry for my mistake and it will never happen again, but if she wasn't that interested to begin with, then it doesn't really matter. It's hard for me to believe that if I hadn't done that mistake, we could eventually fall in love, get married, etc. True love is blind to stupid mistakes and that's what I am looking for. Good job. Just make sure she's worth it.
Diezel Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Having not read the responses: I'm willing to bet she had already X'ed you out as a potential and used this whole scenario as her "out". Any person with a sense of humor, compassion, or forgiveness wouldn't just write another person off like that if the interest was high enough.
Phoe Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Mister zen, nobody is talking about DAYS of unanswered texts. You're the only one jumping to such an exaggerated length. The OP states that he sent his drunk text after a few hours. A few HOURS. not days. People commonly spend hours away from their phone. If people are taking DAYS to respond to you, then yes, they're likely ignoring you/don't care that much. That's not news to anyone. 2
Mister Zen Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Mister zen, nobody is talking about DAYS of unanswered texts. You're the only one jumping to such an exaggerated length. The OP states that he sent his drunk text after a few hours. A few HOURS. not days. People commonly spend hours away from their phone. If people are taking DAYS to respond to you, then yes, they're likely ignoring you/don't care that much. That's not news to anyone. Fair enough.
Author a_v_i_k Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 (edited) Just to be clear about it: She saw my first text. I know this because she told me that she saw it when I've sent it, but she was busy at that moment making plans with her friends so she decided to call me afterwards. And another thing. At that evening I knew she saw it immediately, because my first text was sent right after I called her to inform her that I did, because her cell line was busy (no waiting call) and otherwise she wouldn't have known that I called. Edited September 14, 2014 by a_v_i_k
Lipitor11 Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Hmm...it kind of sounds like she wasn't interested in you at all??? I mean, sure you guys had 3 great dates, but that's where it ended. The way I see it, you didn't come off as clingy or needy, you only sent 2 texts, its not like you sent her 10 texts. That was just an "excuse" to get rid of you. If she was into you, then why would she get upset that you told her good luck? She would have just laughed it off and said, hey forget about it, lets see each other again, etc, etc.
Mister Zen Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Just to be clear about it: She saw my first text. I know this because she told me that she saw it when I've sent it, but she was busy at that moment making plans with her friends so she decided to call me afterwards. And another thing. At that evening I knew she saw it immediately, because my first text was sent right after I called her to inform her that I did, because her cell line was busy (no waiting call) and otherwise she wouldn't have known that I called. Of course she saw your text. 99% of the time, they see your text. She just intentionally decided to ignore you. Just like I've been saying. If you want to be 99% sure a woman is ignoring you ON PURPOSE, always give her at least 24 hours to respond to any call or text. No response in 24 hours is an intentional blow off or some kind of manipulative head game. Just trust me.
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