SpotyLove Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 I've been dating a woman for the past few months. She reminds me a lot of a my only long term gf(3.5 years). She is very responsible, nice, has some similar interests. We also have similar values regarding religion and personal finance. While these are all great qualities, she is very similar to my previous gf in that she is very introverted while I am an pretty extroverted person. Although I'm not particularly outgoing, I love going to parties, bars, concerts, and other social events. She is more of a homebody and likes to read, while I crave external stimulation. I know she likes me a lot and is willing to tag along at social events. However, I think she only does it to please me. I feel like she always wants to be the first person to leave a party and I can't imagine her ever initiating any type of social activity. My old gf frequently made me feel bad for not wanting to stay home with her on weekend nights. She also wasn't a compromising person, which is why we split. I have also dated some extroverts and really enjoyed someone who can match or exceed my energy. It's also nice not to have to plan all social activities and spend time with someone who enjoys being out and about. Despite all our similarities, would it be foolish to break up with someone because of social preferences? I think she is a good person but don't want to feel like I have to drag her through social activities she's not into. Am I being too picky or unrealistic?
Assasda Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Theres got to be something else why you'd want to break up with her. There is a lot more going on that social activities. or Would you justbe in heaven with the paris hilton of socialites, and social activity is the key thing in your life. hahaha so weird
Author SpotyLove Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Theres got to be something else why you'd want to break up with her. There is a lot more going on that social activities. or Would you justbe in heaven with the paris hilton of socialites, and social activity is the key thing in your life. hahaha so weird[/ I suppose she can just seem a bit boring at times since she doesn't seem to converse a lot. It can be challenging to enjoy myself if I think the person I'm with doesn't want to be there.
deathandtaxes Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Nobody ever said she has to go with you everywhere or every time you go out socially. Having your own stuff to do can be good. If it becomes such a problem that she NEVER wants to go out, then you may need to reconsider things.
Author SpotyLove Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Nobody ever said she has to go with you everywhere or every time you go out socially. Having your own stuff to do can be good. If it becomes such a problem that she NEVER wants to go out, then you may need to reconsider things. It's just a matter if how we interpret things. Often, I feel like I'm having to carry the conversation or there could be long pauses or periods of silence . Generally, I seek companionship from my partner while a strong introvert seems to need alone time. I just can't imagine a long term relationship without a steady stream of fun loving conversation. Being around others usually draws out the laughs in me. I love being around friends because they make me happy.
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