Who picks the Place each time around?

[disneygogetter]

Would it be wrong of me, me being the female, to always suggest places for me and my partner to date? Basically doing everything I want even if the person agrees? Or is that wrong of me?

[mightycpa]

Yes. Completely wrong. Based on the questions you've posed over the past week, I think it would be best if you gave me the zip code where you are, and a radius in miles, and I'll choose the places you guys should go.

[Assasda]

Yes you are absolutely wrong.

How dare you.

[disneygogetter]

Yes. Completely wrong. Based on the questions you've posed over the past week, I think it would be best if you gave me the zip code where you are, and a radius in miles, and I'll choose the places you guys should go.

 

Haha but your a stranger why should I listen to you?

[DazedandConfused8]

Would it be wrong of me, me being the female, to always suggest places for me and my partner to date? Basically doing everything I want even if the person agrees? Or is that wrong of me?

 

If you're planning dates, you should alternate (e.g. he picks a restaurant date, then you pick a movie date, then he picks minigolf, etc).

 

If you're just running errands and want to invite him along (e.g. shopping), then go for it and ask.

[mightycpa]

Haha but your a stranger why should I listen to you?

 

Excellent question.

 

#1 - You've been asking me stuff all week, and you've liked my answers. So I've have both a good reputation, and a measure of your trust.

 

#2 - Your aim should be to have a good time and to make sure your dates have a good time. You appear to be uncertain about these things, whereas I am a man brimming with confidence.

 

#3 - I will take you out of your comfort zones, and give you an opportunity to both bond and grow. At times, you'll feel like you have a common enemy, which will unite you. It's all part of my grand design.

 

#4 - I've dated so many girls, I can't name them now. I was in great demand at your age, and everybody had fun.

 

#5 - I'm the only one who's offered.

 

#6 - If a date goes badly, you can blame me.

 

That should be enough.

[disneygogetter]

Excellent question.

 

#1 - You've been asking me stuff all week, and you've liked my answers. So I've have both a good reputation, and a measure of your trust.

 

#2 - Your aim should be to have a good time and to make sure your dates have a good time. You appear to be uncertain about these things, whereas I am a man brimming with confidence.

 

#3 - I will take you out of your comfort zones, and give you an opportunity to both bond and grow. At times, you'll feel like you have a common enemy, which will unite you. It's all part of my grand design.

 

#4 - I've dated so many girls, I can't name them now. I was in great demand at your age, and everybody had fun.

 

#5 - I'm the only one who's offered.

 

#6 - If a date goes badly, you can blame me.

 

That should be enough.

 

Thanks but I am going to have my own judgement on this sort of thing.

 

I know I was the one to first contact him first, text him first, and ask him out. So during our getting to know you time he did mention of wanting to go to a concert and asked if I knew or any and I suggested some with some good bands I knew about. So our next date may be a concert.

 

As for the third date if it does happen I was thinking of going to a theme park but I think thats BIG event to do with someone your just barely dating...

[mightycpa]

Ok, well, your loss. I won't lose any sleep over it. I guess I'll just have to wait and read about the date that went bad because of where you went.

 

Let's hope that day never comes.

[deathandtaxes]

Just do what feels right for you, OP. It should flow organically. If you're a planner and the other person is not, by all means pick and choose. There are no rules to this sort of stuff.

[Gloria25]

It depends....

 

I think it depends on who makes the invite - but I sorta expect the guy to do the picking...

 

It also depends on interest...One time I was looking at having a first time date with a guy I met OLD and he made NO suggestions, didn't agree or disagree...

 

So guess what? I said I'd contact him with a day/time/location and I never did...

[Els]

It depends on what you and the guy's preferences are. If it's someone new and you're not sure what his preferences are... then probably best to alternate for the time being.

 

That being said, in my R (of several years)... I usually pick. It works best for both of us in the long run. He's the kind of guy that likes to take me out on dates but doesn't really enjoy picking where to go. On the other hand I love looking up new places to go to, reading reviews etc. But when we first started dating, he did initiate and pick the places.

[disneygogetter]

Yeah I've just always been like the one to always pick the place and I've been told don't always do what you want. Let the other person choose too. But its not my fault the person agrees on what I suggest haha.