I don't understand this. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago and....

[jcweik]

For about 2 months I was fine. Then lastnight I had these dreams about her. She just pops into my dreams for no reason. This has happened alot too....Same dream over and over. She breaks up with her current boyfriend and we get back together Why does she just pop into my dreams like that?

 

 

 

Also, my sister works at a restuarant. Last month my ex came in and they talked. She told my sister to tell me that she said "hi." I can see that she is just trying to be polite or whatever. BUT my ex knows i was deeply hurt by us breaking up, so why would she toy with me ?

[Breathe]

Is this a case of "Wishful Thinking"?

[glitter_bug]

It was like that when I was getting over my ex too - some days or weeks or months are fine, you carry on with your life. And then you suddendly encounter them or something triggers a memory of them and you feel like you are back were you started, trying to get over them.

 

I don't really belive in fate, or in 'signs'. But I do believe in cognative bias - that is you WANT to believe something, so you read the situation in a certain way, you hear what you want to hear.

[opaleye]

This happened to me just last night. Actually for the last couple of nights. I have been broken up (hurt badly too) with my ex for about 6 months now and most of the time I am fine, but then I dreamt about him getting back with me too and breaking up with his current girlfriend. It just felt so nice and comfortable and it made it a lot harder today. Because these aren't realistic. And the feelings that they envoke in you are painful and feel like a setback because suddenly you miss them again and just wish that you could go back to that comfortable place before you broke up.

 

It made me wonder if I still loved him but I don't want to think about that because I don't want to be in love with him anymore. All the really bad memories fade away and all the good memories stand out in dreams like this. It muddles with reality and puts false memories of how things were into your head. It sucks and it hurts.

 

So I understand exactly what you are going through. Grrr, it's horrible.

 

As to your ex telling your sister to say hi I would think that it doesn't really indicate anything important- sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear but it seems like just one of those things that people say to be saying something. If she really wanted to imply something she probably would have added some other detail to mention to you or some personal joke or something.

 

I totally empathise with your situation and wish you all the best- and ex-free dreams.