clynn Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 This is a break off from the Chemistry thread as it inspired me to thing about the expression of chemisry - kisses! My long time married friends, a couple, spoke with me about their feelings on kissing. That the felt ultimately a kiss when successful is how you know if there is something really going on between two people. If the kiss doesn't work, neither will anything else. A guy friend said he went on a date with a girl, had a really great time, really enjoyed her company, but then, wham....when he kissed her....it was lousy. But then how does that account for one person feeling "it" and another not?
EC Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 I would have to disagree with that..If the kiss doesn't work, neither will anything else. well depending...Because I went on a date once and we had a great time and connected and then we kissed the first time and it wasn't all that great. But the second, third, and fourth were awesome. And now hes my bf. lol Then I have had a real lousy kiss and the guy say wow that was the best kiss ever..??? Then I have not connected with a person at all, or never looked at them in any special way and then somehow( really drunk) ended up kissing them and WHAM awesome kiss andthen all of a sudden they look different. ( not the beer goggles) 1
Linlin Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 I guess smoking is like chemistry. It's there or it's not and it can be a "deal" breaker. I have gone out with guys who were "average" in the looks department but boy could they kiss. I still get intgles when I think about one. On the otherhand, I went out with this greek god, superhot, fireman (you know how we like men in uniform). You could have cut then sexual tension between us with a knife. When we finally kissed, it was like kissing my kids goodnight. Huge letdown, disappointment. Any excitement I felt for him died right then and there. I could tell we just didn't connect.
Pocky Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 It's all about the smell. Some studies suggest that women pick their mate through their sense of smell. So if she doesn't find your smell pleasing then there won't be any chemistry.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 My ex was always a lousy kisser, and I did tell him this which of course made him very self conscious (I was nice about it...really!) My new guy is a pretty good kisser. I have kissed REALLY good kissers before. My new guy, after a couple of months, I started to think, hmmmm his kisses aren't like the ones he used to give me, and so I read up on how to be a good kisser (thinking maybe it was me!). Then one day, after I hadn't seen him for a while, we were about to part and he pulled me close and kissed me just like in the movies!!!!!!!! And that's how he kisses me in bed......*sigh* I told him he was a great kisser and he said Nah, I'm a sloppy kisser....and i said no...it's great. So when his kisses for a while there seemed blah, I guess he was just trying not to be sloppy! (really, he's not sloppy!)
moimeme Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 I have gone out with guys who were "average" in the looks department but boy could they kiss. I still get intgles when I think about one. I don't get the tingles anymore (my policy is to not revisit the past) but I for sure found a few guys' kisses to set off fireworks I never expected. On the otherhand, I went out with this greek god, superhot, fireman (you know how we like men in uniform). You could have cut then sexual tension between us with a knife. When we finally kissed, it was like kissing my kids goodnight. Mine wasn't a fireman but the studliest guy in the office. I had a crush for a while - finally got to kiss him and it fell flatter'n a pancake. Mind you, the attraction can wear off if the kiss is bad, but it doesn't always. Actually, that bit about smell is pretty interesting. The person that was hardest to get over physically (sort of like giving up an addiction) also smelled the best. Just a whiff of him would get me going - not sweat, though that didn't bother me - but just his own skin scent. I never paid attention to skin scent until one of my good friends told me she divorced her husband because she never got used to his scent. I think I get used to the scent of anybody I've ever cared about anyway, but nowadays I do take surreptitious sniffs of fellows and there is quite a difference! Some colognes get to me in a big way, too, so my own experience has shown me it's a factor.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 definately kissing is so so so important to attraction! a bad kisser is a total put-off... i usually run away.. sorry always run away! me and my ex had amzing chemistry together, butterflies etc. when we met each other the kissng was the best i have ever had... so so so sensual... we could go for hours just kissing! ( why the hell are we broken up then? ) the 'smell' thing is very important... doesn't happen so often that i really click with a girl but usually when it happens it is amazing I never paid attention to skin scent apparently we don't, it is supposed to act on a subconcious/unconcious level in the brain... this along with things like 'sex maps' tell us who we are properly attracted to! hence why ( in my humble opinion ) a lot of good looking people are not attractive to me... and how the girl next door i could facny to death and others can't see why!
alphamale Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 Originally posted by clynn If the kiss doesn't work, neither will anything else. that's about right CLYNN. if the 1st kiss does not produce fireworks in both parties then you are screwed.
Groovy Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 The guy I am seeing was a bad kisser the first time or two. But I know he was really nervous. I have no tact and told him how I liked to be kissed. Now he does everything *perfect*
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