HeartbrokenNewbie Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I know I shouldnt ask this and I know its just because I am having one of those random down days but if I dont get this out its just going to go round in my head.. A little while ago (on the one year anniversary of the day he left to be exact!) my LTR ex unblocked me on FB just as I was out having a toast to being 'over it'! A few days later he changed his profile picture from a very nice one of him and his new GF to one where she just appeared to be in the photo but it was more about 'him' it wasnt even a nice photo he has lots more of them together that are nicer but this one seemed to focus on him with him looking directly face into the camera and her at the side almost side lined... I thought it was odd because that would be the last picture I would have chosen but it was the only picture that showed him close up staring right at the camera wide eyed... its no secret that I always used to tell him I loved his eyes and fell in love with them... I am not clutching at straws I accept it is over and apart from the odd down days (like today grr) I am moving on very well but it just makes me wonder if this was done for my benefit after the unblocking?
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted September 11, 2014 Author Posted September 11, 2014 I left it a week and blocked him back so i dont need to be told to do that it just has been bothering me and just wanted some impartial advice x
mightycpa Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Sounds like you've made some progress, but you haven't hit indifference yet. That would explain why you think what he does could be about you. 1
me85 Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 No, I don't think so. He unblocked just to snoop your FB page. That's all. You were obviously on his mind at the time but don't read into it. Nothing like that matters what so ever. Until he contacts you begging for you back don't take anything else seriously. 2
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted September 11, 2014 Author Posted September 11, 2014 I know its just because Im tired today, Ill be okay again tomorrow it just bothered me at the time thought it was a very odd choice of pic to randomly select from your older photos and today being tired has got me all emotional! New day tomorrow! x
lauri Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 My suggestion is you block him. He has girlfriend, even if he did want you back and was doing those things to get your attention, what does it say about his character while hes dating someone else? Not someone you should strive to being with in my opinion.
me85 Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I promise I know where you're coming from. I think our egos get the best of us after being broken up with. Especially if we were broken up with for someone else (which is my case.) I don't even know how you can look at his FB and pictures of him and his new gf. I blocked my ex immediately from the get go. When I see pictures of him and his next ex, I feel a terrible ache in the pit of my stomach. It literally makes me feel sick. Because I'm still bothered that I lost at something. /= But like you, I have been doing very well in moving on and trying to let go, accept that he doesn't love me or never really did (which I don't think he even knows what love is.) I, like you, just recently had a down day a couple of days ago. But it wasn't even for a full day! (= I get it, you just needed to vent. I'm the same way. 2
Zahara Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Even if every poster on LS comes back and tells you that he did that for you, what would it matter? At the end of the day, he is still where he is and you are still where you are. I know you probably hold on to it because we so want to be validated after an ending, that we meant something to them and maybe they still hold on to a little part of us. Understandable but you have to let those little things go because in the grand scheme of things, it means nothing. Try to keep him blocked on everything. It would be best to keep it smooth sailing forward versus allowing these little missteps to derail you. 1
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted September 11, 2014 Author Posted September 11, 2014 I promise I know where you're coming from. I think our egos get the best of us after being broken up with. Especially if we were broken up with for someone else (which is my case.) I don't even know how you can look at his FB and pictures of him and his new gf. I blocked my ex immediately from the get go. When I see pictures of him and his next ex, I feel a terrible ache in the pit of my stomach. It literally makes me feel sick. Because I'm still bothered that I lost at something. /= But like you, I have been doing very well in moving on and trying to let go, accept that he doesn't love me or never really did (which I don't think he even knows what love is.) I, like you, just recently had a down day a couple of days ago. But it wasn't even for a full day! (= I get it, you just needed to vent. I'm the same way. Pretty much sums it up really... it was more of a vent I dont want anything to come of it and as Zahara says it doesnt make any difference.. I think I should pop myself into bed and let tomorrow roll around! x
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I remember a girl I knew at work, she turned down modeling opportunities but had that me type personality. She ended up marrying a nice guy, but every picture posted had her face doing a model's look into the camera. I know it was her day, but nothing showed a natural look to it. Her husband if anything looked the part, but she looked like a Photoshop job to replace the bride so to speak. I think too many peeps put too much into an ex. Peeps should let go and be done with it. All it does is make you long for another chance, and never allows you to have a chance at another relationship. Their life is now their own, just like you. As for Facebook... it seems to me, a false sense of what relationships are all about. Putting your life in the public eye, when what you do is edited to be story book. Nobody want to show their bad side, so look at FB stuff as you would looking through People Mag, knowing that what you see is what it is, nothing more. Relationships are not counted on what your friends do online, it is what they do around you. Nothing is more precious than what cannot be measured or compared. That is why all of what I share with my LDR can and will not be posted or shared with others. As it was only shared between us and nobody else. Sorry you are going through the pains still, and hope you find that what you are missing most, is not lost, and nobody can take it away. You just have to reach in and give it a tug time to time and say I deserved better and I will not let it bring me down. 2
Zahara Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I think I should pop myself into bed and let tomorrow roll around! x Great idea because I bet by tomorrow this feeling will surely have passed.
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