Purepony Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I'm on my fourth break up and this is the first time I cheat, I know I mest up but I'm paying for it. The last year and a half I was depressed and miserable she put her friends first and wanted to be 19 again so I met a nice girl who has been nothing but an.improvement in my life and she caught me and got upset and left then came back and left again... now she's mad because I'm still seeing the girl she caught me cheatingwith with but im not in a relationship when she is dating guys like crazy. I wished her luck and she became upset so I pretty much did what she said "to move on because this was just a learning experience " I know the relationship was bad but why do I always see potential in my relationships after its over? When we where together I wanted to be single and happy now I am.but I'm looking back at what could have been? Why do I constantly think about what things could be? Especially when she didn't see the same goals or even love me the same? I'm feeling bad in the mornings but I'm slowly getting out of the rut and mt life has improved huge since the break up but I still miss her sometimes since it was two years We didn't talk for over a month and she's still mad even sent me pics of the guys she's with.... she then goes off on me for talking to the girl she caught me with after she told me to move on! Help love shack Sorry about the bad grammar I'm at work and needed to be quick..
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Go NC from this girl. Block her. That will allow you to move forward in your life rather than be attached to something that wasn't working.
Author Purepony Posted September 11, 2014 Author Posted September 11, 2014 I already did. I apologized because I did feel guilty and now back to square one NC day 2
Author Purepony Posted September 11, 2014 Author Posted September 11, 2014 Bump*bump *I bump* Bump* Bump*
Mr Scorpio Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 It is perfectly normal to think about "what could have been". I suspect the vast majority of people do so from time to time. In the end, all you can do is acknowledge that the past is just that, the past. There is nothing you can change except for the future. To do that you must focus on the present. It is also normal to suffer from "Grass is Greener Syndrome". When I was with my ex, I yearned for those long nights out drinking with the fellas, then getting some greasy food and playing Madden until the sun came up. Once she left me, I yearned for those early nights of crawling into bed at 10:00 and spooning. Once we got back together I yo-yo'd from one state to the other. Beyond that, people want what they can't have. When you're in a relationship, you want your freedom. When your single and have your freedom, you want a relationship. As with all things, balance is key.
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