Girl blanked me after first date

[yetior]

Hi,

 

First off I am a complete virgin both sexually and dating wise and 19 years old. I have known this girl since January and have always liked her. I was going to ask her out earlier but she made it perfectly clear that she didn't want to date me - we were colleagues back then though. A mutual friend suggested the old "playing hard to get". It seemed to work and we both mutually agreed to go out for a drink and a walk the other night (yes I know more than half a year has passed since January).

 

I thought it went well - no awkward silences, a lot of touching and hugging but no kiss. I texted her later on that night saying "I had a great night. Can't wait to see you again." No reply as of yet, I wasn't really expecting one to be honest. But yesterday she came into the shop where I still work (and she knew I'd be in that day) to speak to the manager (they're really good friends, go back years) but she completely blanked me. No eye contact, back turned etc.

 

I was thinking about sending her text saying something like: "Look I really like you. I'd like to go out again. If you don't want to, that's fine - just say." Or should I just leave it as perhaps she isn't into me?

 

Thanks

[CarrieT]

She might be wanting to keep her friendships and her dating life completely separate.

 

She might have been needing to be professional for some reason.

 

The best thing you can do is ask her out again and see what her response is. If she declines, you have your answer.

[doeblin]

"Look I really like you. I'd like to go out again. If you don't want to, that's fine - just say."

 

 

I like when people are straightforward, but this text is just too forward, namean?

 

Don't text her anything for a few days, then send her something witty, see how she responds, then ask her out again, just casually.

 

Take care, dude.

[Mike B.]

I wouldn't text any thing in this situation. I think a call would be in order. If you two were already established then you may get away with a text.

[mightycpa]

1) Carrie - work excuse; could be legit.

2) doeblin - "If you don't want to, that's fine - just say."; exactly right, don't be a whiny bitch about it

3) Mike - call; yes.

 

All great advice here. I have nothing to add, which is pretty F'n unusual for me.

[Assasda]

If you really think this is a quality girl, you should text.

"Hey didnt you see me at the store, stranger?

- If she doesnt reply, forget about her

 

No need to start confessing your feelings to some chick you havnt seen in 6 months like a psycho

[MoreCoffee]

Don't do a thing. It's a shame we have to come across like we don't care when we do, but such is the push/pull of courtship. To be (overly) interested is a death sentence.