Author rosycheeks Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 Help please... I need it.
Author rosycheeks Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 Alright. I buckled down and in followed him on Twitter and Instagram. He still has our pictures up, which I don't think mean anything. All I need to do now is unfollow him on the one social media I know he really uses and one where we BOTH know we look at each other...and that's snapchat. I'll put up pictures on my stories and I know he looks at them and vice versa. This one is going to be tough for me.
Bella2 Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 I'm really sorry, I know how much you are hurting at the moment. You're still in the phase of hoping. Hoping that he will regret, hoping he will come back, and hope is awful. You should try to accept the fact that it is finished. What you are doing now, blocking him etc, is a very good start. Cut all ties you have with him. It's gonna take a while before you get past all of this, but you have to believe that you will!!!
Author rosycheeks Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 I'm really sorry, I know how much you are hurting at the moment. You're still in the phase of hoping. Hoping that he will regret, hoping he will come back, and hope is awful. You should try to accept the fact that it is finished. What you are doing now, blocking him etc, is a very good start. Cut all ties you have with him. It's gonna take a while before you get past all of this, but you have to believe that you will!!! I know :/ I'm just starting to regret the last message I sent him. (You can see it in an earlier post) He texted me the day after the BU, and kept texting me asking if we could at least talk, and when I would ask about what, all he said was whatever I wanted to talk about and if I had anyquestions for him, and then that's when I sent the super long text you'll find above. I kinda hoped he would have said at least something, but nothing.
Bella2 Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 I know :/ I'm just starting to regret the last message I sent him. (You can see it in an earlier post) He texted me the day after the BU, and kept texting me asking if we could at least talk, and when I would ask about what, all he said was whatever I wanted to talk about and if I had anyquestions for him, and then that's when I sent the super long text you'll find above. I kinda hoped he would have said at least something, but nothing. You said what you wanted to say. You have every right to. But I understand, just two days ago I sent a message to my ex that I regret... But in the end I was just being honest... Should you talk to him? I don't think it will do a lot of good. You are going to hope for him to say things that he probably will not. I just went through the same, he thought it would be good to talk, but finally I refused. What would it change?
Author rosycheeks Posted September 13, 2014 Author Posted September 13, 2014 Yeah that's def true. He knows what I would like to see from us and he knows how I feel about him. The ball is in his court and until he decides he either wants to work things out with me or not, I need to move on the best I can. A friend said that maybe we really do just need a good amount of time apart. She herself knew how well the relationship was good. We treated each other very well and with respect and cared a lot about one another. there was never any dealbreakers or fights/ signs if abuse, it was a truly loving relationship. I just don't think he knows what he wants right now and is has a lot on his plate and also wants more time with his friends and time to party/drink/smoke. I know he wouldn't date right away or see another girl quickly because he's extremely picky when it comes to choosing a girlfriend and isn't the guy to sleep around, so I know that for sure... I just hope he remembers and comes to a realization of what we had and how well were to one another and his reason for breaking up could be worked on. But in the mean time I know I need to move on before I can ever talk to him again and vice versa. And he knows now too. That he can't just talk to me right after we broke up. I don't know. Am I right with how I'm thinking about this and how I'm taking it?
Author rosycheeks Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 Everyone I've talked to about my BU thinks his reasons for breaking up with me are ridiculous and immature..
Author rosycheeks Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 I keep hoping he'll come back :/ I hate it...
Author rosycheeks Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 Its the 2nd week since my BU with my boyfriend of 6 months. You can read about it to get some info on the situation (it's the first thread on my profile) But I'm just really missing him so much. I think he broke it off with ridiculous in tensions and reasons and it hurts knowing we had such a good relationship. I keep hoping he's going to text me saying let's work it out, but a part of me is trying to convince myself he's done for good. In my first thread I talked about how during the first week he tried texting me and said "I'd like it if we could at least talk" and I sent this huge text to him..he never replied to it and now I regret it...thinking maybe he did want to talk and work things out... I don't know. And it hurts so much. It hurts so much because we had such a great relationship.
Ronni_W Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 It hurts so much because we had such a great relationship. No, it is not possible that it was "such a great relationship". People do NOT leave great relationships. They do not break off great relationships for "ridiculous reasons". That is, FOR HIM, it clearly was not such a great relationships...or he would have stayed, and would have done every conceivable thing to be able to stay. He did not. He left. When he said, "I'd like it if we could at least talk" -- he was doing one or both of two things: 1. Trying to keep you on the back-burner or, like a puppet on his string. 2. Looking to appease whatever his own uncomfortable feelings by offering you a false friendship. If you know that your hope is false, when/why did you make the decision, choice for yourself to become subordinate to it, controlled by it? Yes, it is hurting now. But once you see that you deserve better than this; that you deserve a great relationship WHERE YOUR PARTNER ALSO thinks that it is great, then hopefully it will stop hurting. Hugs.
maradona Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 When you are this hurt and emotional false hope is like a poison. Trust me, if he wanted to be with you there is nothing that would stop him, don't overthink on your long message. You need to step back, even if he wants to get back you need to take a step back, go no contact and let the emotions settle. There's an expression once a cheater always a cheater. If he can leave you once he will do it again.. In that sense I would say look forward heal and take care of yourself. To the wrong person you will never have any worth but to the right person you are everything. You deserve that, it is out there. Just ride out the wave and you will get through this.
Author rosycheeks Posted September 20, 2014 Author Posted September 20, 2014 Okay so its been exactly 2 weeks since our BU And I work in a restaurant as a hostess. Last night the hostess working with me looked at me and said, "are you going to be okay Shannon?" I was so confused I asked her what she meant and she said "he's here", I looked up and he was there with a mutual friend of ours (a guy) Instantly my stomach dropped and I was caught off guard. When we were together he never wanted to eat where I worked at, and now 2 weeks after breaking up he shows up. Thankfully the other hostess stepped in and said she'd seat him for me. She also said he kept looking towards the host stand. And I went to go open the door for a guest and the mutural friend of ours said hello to me. Of course I said hello back and then I looked at my ex and he just smiled at me... I didn't want to seem bitter or angry so I gave a smile back and went back to work being as cheerful as I could. I don't know why he came by my work..any thoughts? A friend of mine said he was either trying to mess with me or knows he messed up.
Author rosycheeks Posted September 20, 2014 Author Posted September 20, 2014 Also tonight is a mutual friend's graduation party. I want to go, but I'm sure he's going to be there... I was thinking of just dropping off a graduation gift for my friend and then saying I have to leave so I don't have to face him if he shows up.
Purepony Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 Stop looking into it. He's playing games, if he wanted you back he would say so 2
Author rosycheeks Posted September 20, 2014 Author Posted September 20, 2014 Why would he be playing games with me? He broke it off with me and he knows he hurt me... Is he really that cruel to do something like that?
Author rosycheeks Posted September 21, 2014 Author Posted September 21, 2014 Why did you 2 broke up? https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/493321-range-emotions I didn't want to retype it all out.
No Limit Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Don't play his games. Be polite, and that's it.
Author rosycheeks Posted September 21, 2014 Author Posted September 21, 2014 Well tonight he ended up showing up to a mutual friend's graduation party.. I didn't think he would, but he came and I tried to avoid and ignore I im but he ended up trying to talk to me and say hello and ask me how I was. i looked towards h and smiled, said hello and that I was good and he just walked away and stayed in the other room. Then the host (party girl) wanted to play a game. Thinking he was going to stay and drink I decided it would be nice to play. And we went outside and he ended up going outside to play too. He sat next to this girl and tried talking with her (she didn't seem interested and their conversation was pretty awkward) But I tried to laugh and enjoy myself regardless. And after a while I was just getting tired and I didn't really want to be there anymore so Iexcused myself and said goodbye to the girl and left home.
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