Heavy1976 Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 My girlfriend has her parents living in a granny flat out the back of her property. They are constantly walking into the house day and night, asking questions and just hang around. Also if we go to the shops they text us to get stuff for them when they have no money. My girlfriends mother has had my girlfriend for 5 years for herself before I came along and showed her how she should be treated by a man. This has caused her to be jealous as her daughter spends more time with me now instead of her mum. Her mum will start crying saying you don't love me so she makes her feel pressured into spending time with her against her will.
PegNosePete Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Sounds like your gf needs to stick up for herself.
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 You can't say or do much because your GF will resent you. If you owned the house or were married you would have more rights but here you just have to deal. Be happy that you have a generous GF who cares about her family. Perhaps help the mother get a better job. If you can't deal walk away but don't expect your GF to chose you over them.
preraph Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Your gf is the only one who can do anything about this situation. Even if you got your own place with no family there, if she's "besties" with her mother, I guarantee you that's going to be an issue at all times going forward. No one is supposed to be best friends with their mother, but it's not their fault their mother decided to friend instead of parent them and raise them to adulthood. If her mother was her friend rather than her parent, she didn't prepare her to go off and become an adult. She just cultivated her to remain her friend for life, which isn't how parenting is supposed to be done. If that's the situation, you can just assume you're not going to have much say in anything. They will always side with her and she will always welcome their interference. For me, this would be a dealbreaker. There's no point marrying someone if they're not going to put the marriage first and if they're not mature enough to fly on their own. 2
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