d0nnivain Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 That's what I thought too but why would she want to keep tabs on me? I don't know why she tried to strangle you either but that doesn't mean she didn't. She doesn't want you to be with anybody but she doesn't want you either. She may simply be nutty.
me85 Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 She either is interested in being your friend (or more) or like D said, she is being sneaky and wants to snoop for your ex. Doesn't matter & I wouldn't add her either. But that's just me. 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 I don't know why she tried to strangle you either but that doesn't mean she didn't. She doesn't want you to be with anybody. She may simply be nutty. This is bizarre, she broke up the relationship & now she's expecting to still control me - it doesn't make sense! I really don't know what to make of it.
d0nnivain Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 There is no sense to be made. She's bonkers. Ignore the friend request from her friend & stop obsessing over it. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Absolutely. But you BOTH have to want it. 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 She either is interested in being your friend (or more) or like D said, she is being sneaky and wants to snoop for your ex. Doesn't matter & I wouldn't add her either. But that's just me. I think the two of them have talked & I reckon there's a small part of my fiancé that wants to know what I'm up to now & because I blocked her in return for blocking me, she isn't able to see my profile. She is using the next best thing to see what I'm doing - but what her reasons are, whether that be because she is hoping to get back with me or not is unclear (I more than anything hope she is wanting to get back with me.)
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 There is no sense to be made. She's bonkers. You mean her friend is bonkers or fiancé? Absolutely. But you BOTH have to want it. Agreed, it wouldn't work otherwise.
CarrieT Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 She is using the next best thing to see what I'm doing - but what her reasons are, whether that be because she is hoping to get back with me or not is unclear (I more than anything hope she is wanting to get back with me.) No, you do not hope she wants to get back with you. More than likely - as with many narcissists - she just wants to keep tabs on you because she wants to maintain control. And if you know she is watching you, it will keep you from moving forward. Or, it will give her satisfaction to see that you are NOT doing well and are struggling emotionally. This is why NC is so important.
me85 Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Don't make anything of it. Don't you see you're better off? I hate FB. It's so superficial. Social networking is the demise of RSs all around the world. "Hey let's connect virtually instead of in person like it should be" and "hey let's show the world how happy I am but I'm really not but I have to act like I am anyways because image is everything." And ... "Hey let's snoop around and try to sabotage such and such because it's so easy to do with social networking." Please don't be one of those people who hold social networking in such high regard as if it is the be all end all. It only matters to petty dishonest people. I used to read into a lot of things when I first got on FB then realized what a huge crock of **** it is because a lot of people are full of ****. 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 More than likely - as with many narcissists - she just wants to keep tabs on you because she wants to maintain control. But how would she know that I'm not doing well emotionally? I never use Facebook much (haven't since we had our break) & everything is kept private so no outsiders can see anything so there's no way her best friend would see anything. Why would she want to even bother maintaining control if she said she isn't bothered about me?
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Don't make anything of it. Don't you see you're better off? I hate FB. It's so superficial. Social networking is the demise of RSs all around the world. "Hey let's connect virtually instead of in person like it should be" and "hey let's show the world how happy I am but I'm really not but I have to act like I am anyways because image is everything." And ... "Hey let's snoop around and try to sabotage such and such because it's so easy to do with social networking." Please don't be one of those people who hold social networking in such high regard as if it is the be all end all. It only matters to petty dishonest people. I used to read into a lot of things when I first got on FB then realized what a huge crock of **** it is because a lot of people are full of ****. Yes I think people big themselves up to be something they're not on FB & it kind of hides their true self in a way because it's so artificial they feel they have to act cool & stuff to 'fit in' and appear normal, it's full of nonsense.
NopeNah Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Yes I think people big themselves up to be something they're not on FB & it kind of hides their true self in a way because it's so artificial they feel they have to act cool & stuff to 'fit in' and appear normal, it's full of nonsense. The good old savingfacebook! My ex turned down going out with her best friend from highschool with 'sorry already have plans.".. I'm thinking cool, she's got a date! So I walk into one of our old pubs, I've been shying away from, to meet up with my group of friends. There she is at the end of the bar..alone. Kinda felt bad for her but, not my problem.
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