No Limit Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 (edited) She isn't "fair game", if she wants a committed relationship before she has sex than that is what she wants. If he wants just casual sex then thats what he wants. Both are perfectly fine choices. She isn't 'fair game' because of wanting a relationship; she is for believing in the words "I love you" without the action done to back this up. Naive, but not that uncommon in her age. If OP is unlucky though she'll invent a rape story and, well, I guess you needn't go to highschool anymore if that happens. I don't know anyone who would employ rapists. Edited September 14, 2014 by No Limit 1
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 Go see a counselor before you "bang" someone. You have some hang ups about your ex that you haven't dealt with. You obviously want to punish some poor innocent girl and make her pay for something hurtful your ex has done to you. It'll screw you up and screw her up. She might even start recycling the same trash that youre spinning to her, and she could end up having a " no I love you"policy the next guy she meets. Don't screw her up.Be honest with her and go get some help before you start making some insidious and unhealthy habits and poor choices.
Snagglepuss89 Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 You're in highschool, so wisdom isn't expected, but really think about this. You're going to gain a night of pleasure and a very small quickly forgotten boost of popularity with a small group of people in exchange for making an enemy out of this girl and very likely suffering regret in the future over your own actions. Stop thinking with your dick on this one, you're not being classy at all. Trying to manipulate another person into having sex with you who is bonding to you emotionally and wants a non-casual relationship is wrong. Get some class, it'll make you more desirable in other women's eyes anyway. There are lots of people to have sex with who want what you want, leave this girl alone before you hurt her in exchange for your own self satisfaction. 4
Mopparon Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 She isn't 'fair game' because of wanting a relationship; she is for believing in the words "I love you" without the action done to back this up. Naive, but not that uncommon in her age. If OP is unlucky though she'll invent a rape story and, well, I guess you needn't go to highschool anymore if that happens. I don't know anyone who would employ rapists. We're in agreement then. The OP needs to move on and find someone who wants the same things out of a relationship (casual sex in this case) that he wants. That is my main point. Compatibility is key to any relationship. Without it, there's a very high chance it is doomed.
ktya Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 Hey you guys, there's this girl at school I'm getting along with, she's very pretty, but I don't want a relationship with her, so I'll never tell her I love her, I just want to bang her but she insist that I tell her I love her, now she doesn't clearly say "tell me u love me first" when I tell her that imma visit her she laughs and asks me what do I really want from her, now this gal is on my hands, I've never called her she's the one who has been calling for 5 consecutive days, when we talk over the phone we mainly flirt for 2 to 3hrs, when she calls she asks me how did I write today or tells me that her spinal cord is still painful(we were playing & she fell) but as soon as I bring the sex topic she asks what do I really want 4rm her. NOW ever since I was ****ed by my ex I promised myself I won't use the term "I love u", it has been working well, I've had sex with 2 gals without say I love em but this gal insists, wht must I do guys ? Just lie & say I love her? Good thing you are still in school. Please pay attention especially in English class you could really make use of paragraphs and less run on sentences. But onto your topic. This girl wants to have sex with a boyfriend. Not a FB. If you dont want to be her boyfriend move along because if you lie and tell her you love her you are going to crush her soul. She will be the one etching into picnic tables that you need to die. I'm not slamming you... I've been there done that. And I never even told the chick that I loved her, but she obviously loved me a lot more than I loved her. Girl HATED on me for years. I even told her before I F'ed her to kiss my cat or something because I was whinging over another girl I had an up and down relationship with. The empathetic side of me says to move on and leave this one alone for mercy. The hunter dating guy in me says you can take her for a sweet romantic candlelit dinner and wine and dine her tell her you love her and take her straight to the sack. Maybe I'm getting soft in my old age but the former is winning. Choose wisely. Hell have no wrath like a woman scorned, especially if she's a virgin.
Author nerdlingZA Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 ****! This girl is has wasted 4 weeks of my ****ing life! I really hate it when people come into your life on their terms but when u want to **** them they **** u up! We watched that crap called othello and when I tried to make a move she acted like a ****ing 1 year old, ****!!!! I've deleted her phone & blocked her.
Els Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 ****! This girl is has wasted 4 weeks of my ****ing life! I really hate it when people come into your life on their terms but when u want to **** them they **** u up! We watched that crap called othello and when I tried to make a move she acted like a ****ing 1 year old, ****!!!! I've deleted her phone & blocked her. Good on her. She's smart, at the very least.
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 ****! This girl is has wasted 4 weeks of my ****ing life! I really hate it when people come into your life on their terms but when u want to **** them they **** u up! We watched that crap called othello and when I tried to make a move she acted like a ****ing 1 year old, ****!!!! I've deleted her phone & blocked her. You poor baby. Not. I warned you that she only wanted to watch a movie with you & that it wasn't an invitation for sex. She didn't waste 4 whole weeks of your young life. She was clear in what she wanted & didn't want. She told you where her boundaries were but you decided to ignore them & attempt to use her for your own gratification. I think it's wonderful that you are moving on but please stop acting like you are the wronged party here. 2
Author nerdlingZA Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 You poor baby. Not. I warned you that she only wanted to watch a movie with you & that it wasn't an invitation for sex. She didn't waste 4 whole weeks of your young life. She was clear in what she wanted & didn't want. She told you where her boundaries were but you decided to ignore them & attempt to use her for your own gratification. I think it's wonderful that you are moving on but please stop acting like you are the wronged party here. I'm wronged because I didn't ask her to come into my life She wasted 4 weeks that I could've tried to talk with my crush, now because this girl has always been with me during these 4 weeks I haven't been able to talk to my crush I haven't seen her for 4 days & there's only a few days until school closes
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 I'm wronged because I didn't ask her to come into my life She wasted 4 weeks that I could've tried to talk with my crush, now because this girl has always been with me during these 4 weeks I haven't been able to talk to my crush I haven't seen her for 4 days & there's only a few days until school closes Oh my god you're an idiot 2
Diezel Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 ****! This girl is has wasted 4 weeks of my ****ing life! I really hate it when people come into your life on their terms but when u want to **** them they **** u up! We watched that crap called othello and when I tried to make a move she acted like a ****ing 1 year old, ****!!!! I've deleted her phone & blocked her. No, YOU wasted 4 weeks of your life. Apparently, a very short life of about 11 years. 4
doeblin Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 I'm wronged because I didn't ask her to come into my life She wasted 4 weeks that I could've tried to talk with my crush, now because this girl has always been with me during these 4 weeks I haven't been able to talk to my crush I haven't seen her for 4 days & there's only a few days until school closes LOL what an idiot. You seriously chased a girl you're otherwise not interested in, only to show off to your buddies, while you actually have a crush you ignored! HAH! Maybe you should avoid women for a few years.
cristalina Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Sometimes you just gotta sit back with a bowl of popcorn and watch the forum. P.S. Good for her. 2
SomeDude16 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 You goofed. Either man up and deal with it or transfer schools, but don't let this girl suffer because of your own stupidity.
Mopparon Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 I'm wronged because I didn't ask her to come into my life She wasted 4 weeks that I could've tried to talk with my crush, now because this girl has always been with me during these 4 weeks I haven't been able to talk to my crush I haven't seen her for 4 days & there's only a few days until school closes She didn't waste 4 weeks of your life! YOU chose to spend that time with her! She didn't force you to be with her! YOU chose to be there! And she told you very clearly what she wanted out of a relationship, that she wanted to be in a committed, loving relationship before getting intimate! YOU chose to ignore her! YOU chose to spend that time with her even though you knew that she wanted different things from the relationship than you did! So you have noone to blame but yourself, because it was YOU who chose to ignore your crush and instead focus on an incompatible relationship that was going nowhere! I just hope you've learnt from your mistakes and don't repeat them, so all this drama can be avoided in the future. 1
Author nerdlingZA Posted September 16, 2014 Author Posted September 16, 2014 She didn't waste 4 weeks of your life! YOU chose to spend that time with her! She didn't force you to be with her! YOU chose to be there! And she told you very clearly what she wanted out of a relationship, that she wanted to be in a committed, loving relationship before getting intimate! YOU chose to ignore her! YOU chose to spend that time with her even though you knew that she wanted different things from the relationship than you did! So you have noone to blame but yourself, because it was YOU who chose to ignore your crush and instead focus on an incompatible relationship that was going nowhere! I just hope you've learnt from your mistakes and don't repeat them, so all this drama can be avoided in the future. Don't take this as a satire or something but I've read some of your posts and I think you should get into a relationship profession. & yes you're right I'm the one who choose to be with her just like how othello choose to listen to iago's false accusations
Author nerdlingZA Posted September 16, 2014 Author Posted September 16, 2014 No, YOU wasted 4 weeks of your life. Apparently, a very short life of about 11 years. Lol I take this as sarcasm ? Well I say she wasted 4 weeks bcoz I would've spent it with some who means something to me(crush)
Mopparon Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Lol I take this as sarcasm ? Well I say she wasted 4 weeks bcoz I would've spent it with some who means something to me(crush) Why didn't you spend it with your crush instead then? You're saying that she held you hostage? That she tied you up and wouldn't let you leave her? Because that isn't how you made it sound in all of your other posts. All your other posts clearly indicate that YOU chose to be with her because you wanted to have sex with her just to show off to your friends. That you stuck with her without telling her your motives, even when you knew that she wanted to be in a loving relationship before having sex, and you just wanted the sex.
Blade96 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 I think you both goofed. Her for trying to be with a guy (you) who wasn't showing her or communicating to her the same desires and being flaky about it (I like a guy who knows what he wants, the same thing that I want and I want what she wants) and I think she should have given up earlier and go find a guy compatible with her and you goofed because as everyone here said you did not tell her what you want at this point in your life (just casual sex) It is not wrong to like casual sex but wrong to hurt this girl just to show off to friends who do not seem like that great of people anyway to think of women as they do. But - you're just teens. Goofing is how you learn. I bet everyone here in this forum has goofed at something.
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