If you've been broken up with and want a chance of winning your ex back read this.

[llleonidus]

I always said when i had won my ex back i'd come back and write about my experience and try giving something back to the love shack community.

 

You'll read over and over again on love shack about people saying how important no contact is during a break up.

 

No contact works by completely ignoring your ex and blocking them off social media.

 

"Blocking your EX". I used to hate even reading the word ex, i couldn't believe i was in this forum and couldn't believe i was now referring to her as an ex. what went wrong? All i knew was she dumped me and i was in a hell of a mess.

 

First of all i can't stress how important the no contact rule is. You need to completely stop contacting them, the sooner you start the better it is for you, you've probably begged pleaded and promised the world. JUST STOP.

 

Give them time the love shack community used to tell me, that was the one thing i didn't want to do, that was the one thing i couldn't control.

 

I placed all the blame on my shoulders and took 100% responsibility for the break up and thought it was all my fault and what i would do different if she would just give me another chance, i sent her an email saying how i'd change, BIG MISTAKE, all that does is stroke their ego and reinforce their attitude that they was right to get out.

 

What you need to do is cut them out of your life 100%, don't go to places they go, block all social media and hide away things that remind you of them. easier said than done but try your best.

 

Now one thing is for sure they will soon be wondering why you are not contacting them grovelling and pleading for them back.

 

After about 2 weeks i received the inevitable bread crumbs telling me a letter has arrived for me. I totally ignored it, that so dame important that you don't give them an inch on this, i know what you're thinking, "what if they're trying to get back with me" trust me if they want you back they are not going to give up after 1 text.

 

Two days later i received another text, saying she missed me, again i never stroked her ego by answering even though i was dying to. after 1 more text i answered and arranged to meet for a drink, i acted confident (even though i wasn't) told her the break up was for the best, she seemed shocked i was doing so well, we ended up back together.

 

After a few weeks no contact i guarantee you'll feel 10 times better and i almost will guarantee that loved one will be in contact, THEY ALWAYS GET IN CONTACT AT SOME POINT TRUST ME.

 

The question you really need to be asking is, why you guys broke up in the first place, some people will break up and live happily ever after, the fact of the matter is most don't last, im a 29 year guy and broke up with multiple ex's and its never worked out, including the girl i mentioned here.

 

We broke up mutually after 2 months, and i walked away relatively hurt free as i knew we had both tried and i had already grieved the relationship.

 

It's important you grieve the old relationship and if you want any chance of working things out, YOU NEED TO LET GO. That relationship is dead for a reason. if you do get back together things need to be different and you can only achieve that by taking time apart and realizing where things went wrong, change is required from both of you. or the cycle will repeat itself.

 

Take some time, search this forum, help others out. THINGS WILL GET BETTER. That's another promise, nearly everyone in the world had gone through what you are going through right now. a few months ago there was no light at the end of the tunnel, i didn't want any one else, nor to even think of it. how things have changed.

 

Let me tell you something if it doesn't work out with this one its for a reason and that because you're not meant to be. there is someone so much better waiting for you. it's true, it happened to me. Now are you going to waste any more time crying over them? HELL NO if they want you let can come and get you other wise C YA LATER A HOLE XX

[d0nnivain]

No contact is not a trick to get an EX back. It's a healing tool for you.

[isurvivedyoucantoo]

Lol what I would do for a breadcrumb.... Obviously I wouldn't respond, she's just gone so cold its hard to believe.

[llleonidus]

Im simply writing about my experience and how when i went no contact my ex started contacting me, although i did initially use as a healing tool it also worked in making her miss me.

Edited September 10, 2014 by llleonidus