TamYBella Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I met this guy back in 2010, he was very sweet and nice. I knew him for about a year before we started dating. Everything was perfect, he treated me like I was his everything, he told me he would never leave me and would always love me. It was a very serious relationship. We lived together two months after we got together, so we lived with each other over two years. We was together everyday, and we went through hard times such as his grandfather dying(I hugged him while he cried when he got the phone call) his mom having cancer and my uncle dying. It wasn't perfect, he cheated once online(it lasted 2 months before I found out) and I argued with him a lot over stupid things. We have a one year old together and just 2 weeks ago he tells me "we are done" Now he's in a long distance relationship(she lives 1,000 miles away from her) and claims shes his everything, his soul mate, he loves her and doesn't love me anymore. (this is the girl he cheated on me online with before. But when I found out he stopped all communication with her and cried to me)That when he met her again all his feelings for me vanished. I just don't understand how all his feelings can just be gone..just like that..after everything we have been through there's nothing left for me? He made me move back to my home state...he doesn't text me at all, only once a day about how our daughter is(she's one) Why is he okay and in love with someone else while im here crying over him barely hanging on?
pteromom Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I am sorry you are going through this. He doesn't sound very mature. Rather than making a commitment and working through problems, he just floats on the breeze at the whim of his feelings. He has built up this fantasy about her in his head, and there is no way you can compete with that. In his mind, she is perfect, never argues, meets all his sexual desires, laughs at everything he says, and is always as beautiful as the photos she sends. Reality will kick in and he will realize that she is just a human being with faults too - likely even "deal breaker" faults. But you can't do anything about this right now. He's determined, and is convinced he is "in love" with this imaginary person, and you have to let him go explore it. It sucks. But I promise that this has nothing to do with you, or anything lacking in you. You could be the most beautiful most sexy most perfect gf in the world, and if he's a guy who looks outward to solve his problems instead of working with YOU to solve them, that is just the way he is. Make sure he does the right thing when it comes to your daughter.
Author TamYBella Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 (edited) I don't understand why he has to tell me "she's my soulmate, my everything, I love her so much and she understands how I feel" why does he have to tell me this ? Edited September 10, 2014 by TamYBella
FailedFirstLove Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I don't understand why he has to tell me "she's my soulmate, my everything, I love her so much and she understands how I feel" why does he have to tell me this ? Pretty spiteful. He clearly wants you to know to hurt you. But to also make you move on. Use that to help. He may resent you for whatever reason but his a jerk.
pteromom Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I don't understand why he has to tell me "she's my soulmate, my everything, I love her so much and she understands how I feel" why does he have to tell me this ? 1 - he's saying it to purposely hurt you. 2 - he's oblivious to how it could hurt you. 3 - he's super dramatic and is in an emotional stupor. No matter which one it is, it doesn't paint the picture of a guy you would want to be with.
Author TamYBella Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 This really hurts a lot after after all me and him have been through I'm hurt and crying and he is perfectly fine..no pain at all no missing me like all the love from him is just gone in a week and I still love him
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