lr010593 Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I received a message from his mom last night, the first time she's contacted me since the break up... she told me that I'm a great person, misses seeing my face around there, and that she hopes him and I will keep in touch. I responded briefly, telling her that it was nice to hear from her and that he's a very special person to me - that he's had such a positive impact on myself and in my life, and that I hope all is well with her. She sent another message, this time much longer, saying that him and I were in a tough position (there's an hour and a half between us + conflictive work schedules) but that she thinks we're really good for each other and hopes, at the very least, that we will remain friends. Told me how much everyone liked me and how much he really does as well - that he's (still) constantly telling people how great I am. She ended the message with, "I don't mind if you tell him I messaged you, but he doesn't need to know everything... love you... chin up." I reached out to him about an hour later, just saying that I heard from his mom tonight and felt like she wanted me to reach out and say hello, so hello... He responded with, "I'm glad that you and my mom got to talk and you guys are so friendly in general. But I'm not sure what she said that would give you that idea. Not that I don't want to talk to you or anything, but I honestly have avoided talking to my mom about you since we broke up. And I still think it would be easier for you if we didn't talk for now. Am I wrong? Hope everything is going great with you, though." I said I would obviously prefer to keep what was said between her and I, but that he wasn't wrong at all and things were misconstrued on my behalf. I apologized, told him that I don't want him to think we're on different pages... that I know he made the right decision for him and that there are no hard feelings... ended it with something positive and told him that I meant no harm earlier... I feel so lousy. I had been doing so well and now I tripped over my own two feet...
PegNosePete Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Yes, this is why you shouldn't break NC. Back to it girl!! And that includes NC with his mom too.
Zahara Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Time to NC with mom too. You can even tell her that you need space and time to heal and maybe in time you will be able to rekindle contact with her when the break-up doesn't affect you anymore.
Bella2 Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I understand you very well. We have to stick to this NC, even when at times it's so difficult. Feeling lousy at the moment too, you're not alone, but we will be getting better and better soon
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