fortyninethousand322 Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I don't know. I think you ought to say some of these things to him. It's quite possible he's just clueless about relationships and dating. A lot of us guys missed the secret meeting we were supposed to go to when we were teenagers and never learned the subject matter. If it were me, and a girl dumped me without letting me know how she felt before hand, I'd probably never date again.
Gloria25 Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Reading these threads makes me cringe... Is this what "dating" is now a days? Shacking up only after knowing someone for a handful (or less) of months? I've never even given a key to a guy I've known for a few months. How do you know he's not Ted Bundy or something? This guy never really wanted you in the first place. You, you, and you kept on pushing him and now he's just on the ride just because. Please, move out, move on, and NEVER do anything like this again. 1
Supernatural Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 You're so unhappy. You're asking us if you should leave? This guy sounds like he's so broken and just doesn't care towards romance. People like you both, should not date. Takes two to tango.
mightycpa Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 If it were me, and a girl dumped me without letting me know how she felt before hand, I'd probably never date again. Awww! Don't get discouraged like that, most of what they tell you is BS anyway. 1
aussietigerwolf Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 That's what it sounds like to me too. I have to wonder where the guy's backbone is as he doesn't even seem to want to have sex with you even... Reading these threads makes me cringe... Is this what "dating" is now a days? Shacking up only after knowing someone for a handful (or less) of months? I've never even given a key to a guy I've known for a few months. How do you know he's not Ted Bundy or something? This guy never really wanted you in the first place. You, you, and you kept on pushing him and now he's just on the ride just because. Please, move out, move on, and NEVER do anything like this again.
FitChick Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Yet another example of why a woman should never chase a man. You are just a roommate who splits the rent. 2
Author madgirl1991 Posted September 11, 2014 Author Posted September 11, 2014 Okay I know I listed lots of problems. But I forgot one thing. IM HAPPIER THAN IVE EVER BEEN WITH A GUY AND ALONE. Im not a roomate who splits the billls, we live in his house and he pays most of the bills even tho we basically earn the same...because its his house. He let me.move in because my mum kicked me out of my parents house without much notice. He always looks after me. He is super affectionate just not talented at turning me on. He spends time getting to know my family amd friends. He listens to me rant about the same things work friend etc everyday amd never complains. He is amazing in many ways. Theres just no spark/chemistry. No emotional highs and lows. I know id be hapy eith this guy long term..but I am not sure if its a bad sign the spark isnt there. The romance smooth ess apoiling etc. The sensitive tough smooth romantic guy doesnt exist. I knew that ans thats why I deciddd to settle down with this guy.
Diezel Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I have lived with my boyfriend for 2 months, dated for 4. Before that we were internet friends for 3 months. I know, its moved really fast, probably too fast, but it was due to circumstances that made it just make sense (family problems etc). He is 28 i'm 24. I stopped right here. Had enough, before I saw there was more to it. You moved in after 2 months? And you wonder why you are having problems and aren't happy? Leave? What's the other option: Stay and be miserable?
HermioneG Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 I've said lots of negative things. But i forgot to mention the purpose of this post! Should i stay with him? I'm interestedi n the view of long term couples. I know that sex/romance is only a small part of long term relationships. Honestly, i'm at that point where i am willing to compromise. This guy is amazing in every other way, we get along so well (always chatting, its like living with a best friend), take care of each other, have the same goals and even our families are quite similar. I know i am a hard one to match, with all my quirks, i havent had a long-term prospect in years...same for him...but we are a great match (even the website we met on said so ). Would you stay? Not for any longer than it would take me to pack my stuff.
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 IM HAPPIER THAN IVE EVER BEEN WITH A GUY AND ALONE. Theres just no spark/chemistry. No emotional highs and lows. I know id be hapy eith this guy long term..but I am not sure if its a bad sign the spark isnt there. The romance smooth ess apoiling etc. The sensitive tough smooth romantic guy doesnt exist. I knew that ans thats why I deciddd to settle down with this guy. Try this then. Move out & date him. You guys went way too fast. You never formed a true foundation.
MoreCoffee Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 (edited) Originally Posted by madgirl1991 View Post IM HAPPIER THAN IVE EVER BEEN WITH A GUY AND ALONE. Theres just no spark/chemistry. No emotional highs and lows. I know id be hapy eith this guy long term..but I am not sure if its a bad sign the spark isnt there. The romance smooth ess apoiling etc. The sensitive tough smooth romantic guy doesnt exist. I knew that ans thats why I deciddd to settle down with this guy. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- No emotional highs and lows? Really? Really???? Because if it doesn't have that manic quality it's just not real? You've just said a mouthful with the above sister. I don't think you should be in any relationship until you reset your expectations and learn the reality of what work goes into a relationship by both parties. Edited September 11, 2014 by MoreCoffee
Zippy2000 Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Wow! You sound like my mum and she is Chinese. She used to say she never got romanced too but what you describe here is like wanting some fairytale romance. To answer your question. No. I don't think you should leave. Why? You'll just find a different set of problems with another person. There nothing on your post to show it can't be fixed. OK maybe he bought the most cheapest appliance and didn't put any thought into it, or maybe he looked a Chinese restaurant and you eat the food all the time. He's a man and not all men think the way you do until you commicate effectively what you want. Set aside a time when you can tall without distractions.
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