Dork Vader Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Met a fairly awesome woman. We seemed to hit off on the phone talked for 3 hours before she realized it was 11:30 and ended the call. I text her a what's up the next day.. Nothing.. Never had this happen with net dating especially if the conversation went well. I had her laughing the entire night. I'm a tad confused.. Move on correct? Was debating texting one more time Friday. Opinions?
UltimaWeapon Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 This is why online dating is so wack. I would be way too frustrated. Maybe she enjoyed talking to you on the phone for that period of time but had no other interest in talking after that or starting anything? Makes no sense why she would't reply the next day if your conversation went that well. Let her contact you - I wouldn't text again 1
Author Dork Vader Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 I'm just trying to get my game going again with net dating. I have ideas why she did not text back... Not hugely concerned I just saw some potential. Blah finding your dating game again all over is a pain. Gotta remember give nust enough to keep em satisfied but wanting more.
PegNosePete Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 You should not be talking on the phone for 3 hours. You should talk on the phone for 10 minutes before saying "hey this conversation is great but I'd rather continue it in person, what are you up to tomorrow night?" The "hey what's up" text is lame. Communicate properly. If you're interesting in dating her then ask her on a date. You're not there to meet text buddies. You're the man, it's up to you to ask her. Pro tip: nothing is real until you meet. 6
Gaeta Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 This happened to me before. Even though the guy was nice, made me laugh and all, our conversation confirmed that him and I didn't have enough in common, or there was something he said that made me let go of him. If you get along online go ahead and book a meeting. Last Sunday I started exchanging with this guy online, he can't meet me this week because he has his kids full time, we're Wednesday and I am already tired of exchanging emails, I am slowly losing interest.
Brady_to_Moss Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 3 hours? Wayyyyyyyy too long...like 2 hours and 43 min long
Supernatural Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Okay, so they talked for awhile... Big whoop. He had a willingness, and for that I pat him on the back. She's pretty lame for just brushing him off after that much time spent. Saying "nothing is real until you meet" isn't necessarily true. He still invested time and probably some of his emotion in to that conversation. he still spoke to another human being. Therefore everything he experienced, even if only verbal, was still real. I could meet someone and hangout with them everyday for a week. And they could lie about everything. And I could say that wasn't real either. So. She talked to you for 3 hours. Everything seemed great and there seemed to be a small future opening up in your imagination. She hasn't responded to you and didn't tell you she wasn't interested. Any person who does that lacks integrity. And I imagine you have some. She's not worth it. And she's not even thinking about you right now. So do yourself a favor and forget about people who are sh*t.
Supernatural Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 Just learn from this experience and move on. That's the most positive thing you can do. But don't stop doing something just because people say not to. If you like talking on the phone with a woman for hours... Do it. Not every woman, and not every man lacks integrity or has their head up their ass. Just a really big percentage of the population do. OLD is full of this kind of stuff. Meet people organically in person. It's more exciting anyways.
Assasda Posted September 11, 2014 Posted September 11, 2014 As much as you enjoyed talking with her, its kinda a bad sign when she realizes is 11:30 then decides to end the call. It lets me believe that she wasnt enjoying it as much as you thought she was. So, end the call, tell her, youll pick it up when you meet. Pegnosepete got it spot on I think. "How are you" is the absolute worst. eliminate it from from your lexicon. Ask her something that is worth while or funny. To me. a woman not replying to "How are you " makes perfect sense. Anyway, I think you should call her, if she doesnt answer say "Contact me if you'd like to go out and have some fun" and never call her again. Ofcourse if she answers, banter a little bit, set up a time to meet, then get off the phone
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