superkoo Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 We were together for 8 years. I cheated on her, I told her I wasnt sure what I wanted and I moved out (we lived together for 6 years). I went and did my thing, talked and went out with girls. During this time, she contacted me nonstop. I answered but really wasnt available for her. I took our relationship status off facebook and she backed off. After she did this, I contacted her and decided I wanted to reconcile because I figured out that she is what I want and she is the one for me. She agreed to try to work it out. We "got back together" for about 2 weeks. During this time I realize how beta I wasnt doing a very good job of showing her my change and that I want her. Then suddenly she started ignoring my texts. After 5 days of no contact, she contacts me. Says she wants to talk about us. I agree. She says she cant trust me again and that we can never be together again, although she wants me to be her friend because she still cares for me deeply. I freaked, it was ugly, I said I couldnt be friends with her. I begged her I have changed and that if she gave me another shot I can prove it to her. But she just cried and said no, she can never love me like she once did again. I told her that if this is what she wants shell lose me forever. She said she knows that, and I left, on bad terms. Going over there I told myself I wouldnt beg for her and just play it cool, but when I saw her I just wasnt able to. Im broken.. I made the biggest mistake of my life and I want her back so bad. The longest form of NC we had were those 5 days she ignored me..Do you think I have a shot down the road of a true reconciliation?
Always Pondering Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Thing here is, you cheated on her and then essentially broke up with her afterwards. Any kind of break up eats away some of the trust and by cheating on her, that only makes it much worse. It's up to her if she decides she can trust you again and as of right now she's telling you she can't. You two tried again but due to the lack of trust, she decided she doesn't want to commit to it anymore. If you have any chance later down the road (although I feel it's very slim), you two letting go and following through with NC more than 5 days would be your best bet.
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