Bails on Date Give Another Chance?

[disneygogetter]

If you had a date and it was the day of the date, and your partner texts or calls you and says they have to cancel last minute, would you give them another chance at another date or just cut them off altogether?

 

I am suppose to have a date tonight and its 1PM and I have not heard from the guy I am suppose to meet up with so not sure what will happen.

[d0nnivain]

It depends on why. If the other person has a valid reason, sure I'd give them another chance. Bosses ask you to work later. Family members get sick. Accidents happen. etc.

 

With no explanation, I'd be more reluctant to give another chance.

[Gaeta]

If he calls last minute it's ok, sh!.t happens. If he doesn't call and stands me up that's another story, if he keeps on cancelling last minutes that is also different but for 1 time cancelling last minute I would be flexible.

[mightycpa]

If you had a date and it was the day of the date, and your partner texts or calls you and says they have to cancel last minute, would you give them another chance at another date or just cut them off altogether?

 

I am suppose to have a date tonight and its 1PM and I have not heard from the guy I am suppose to meet up with so not sure what will happen.

 

too early to worry, especially if you already have a date, and a time, and an understanding as to the mode of transportation.

[longjohn]

If you had a date and it was the day of the date, and your partner texts or calls you and says they have to cancel last minute, would you give them another chance at another date or just cut them off altogether?

 

I am suppose to have a date tonight and its 1PM and I have not heard from the guy I am suppose to meet up with so not sure what will happen.

I wouldn't worry until closer to the time of the date. If you don't get a response. you show up then they are a no show I'd not offer a second chance after that. If something genuinely came up and they make contact I'd give a second chance. If it smells like BS though I'd move on. Trust your gut on it.

[disneygogetter]

I wouldn't worry until closer to the time of the date. If you don't get a response. you show up then they are a no show I'd not offer a second chance after that. If something genuinely came up and they make contact I'd give a second chance. If it smells like BS though I'd move on. Trust your gut on it.

 

But wouldn't it be wiser to just ask "Hey are we still on for tonight at 7PM?" then just go and show up and wait when they won't show up?" Isn't that like wasting time and energy because you go and get ready then go show up not knowing what is going to happen haha.

[Fondue]

Whenever I setup a date with a woman, I set it up with a concrete date/time/place. No room for error or second guessing. If I asked you to go out with me and you accept, I expect you to be there.

 

THere isn't a need for confirmation or nonsense like that.

 

If he/she doesn't show up, then they're a flake (thankfully this never happened to me, but I keep reading about them here unfortunately). You shouldn't date flakes. If he isn't there, then there isn't a 2nd chance.

[disneygogetter]

Well I was the one to ask him out for today's meet/date so we'll just see what happens.

[d0nnivain]

It's absolutely a good idea to send a confirming text or to call.

[Diezel]

But wouldn't it be wiser to just ask "Hey are we still on for tonight at 7PM?"

 

And why didn't you do that, if it was the wiser choice?

[disneygogetter]

And why didn't you do that, if it was the wiser choice?

 

I am going to text him at 6PM saying "I'm ready and really excited! Are you excited too?"

 

I'm sure he will reply back and then I will have my answer.

[d0nnivain]

Don't do that. It puts too much pressure.

 

Just say: I'm confirming that we're still on for 7 at {location} See you there!

[disneygogetter]

Don't do that. It puts too much pressure.

 

Just say: I'm confirming that we're still on for 7 at {location} See you there!

 

But isn't that saying pressure putting as well? Ugh I don't know what to do haha.

[d0nnivain]

No my post is fact based. Your idea is emotion based.

[Diezel]

But isn't that saying pressure putting as well? Ugh I don't know what to do haha.

 

You JUST said which one would be the wiser choice.

Why not follow that script?

[disneygogetter]

I did not need to follow what I thought would be the wiser choice option. The guy ended up texting me saying "See you at 6:30PM :)". So tonight's date is still on and now we'll see how it turns out. I will keep you posted.

[disneygogetter]

DATE UPDATE:

 

I got to the mall a little after 6PM, then around 6:30PM I walked over to where I was suppose to meet this guy, but while walking by some stores I noticed this one shop was hiring so I thought I would inquiry about it, then I had the guy meet me in the store I was in which was funny haha.

 

He said he had seen me walk into the store while he was walking out of one of the other shops, so he just went to meet me. After meeting we walked around the mall, browsing the shops, and talked, then went to play some video games, then got some drinks, and continued walking and talking.

 

He did make some moves on me, holding my hand a few times throughout the date, and hugged me as well. No kissing happened. In the end he said I looked how I did in the photo, and was a really great person and looks forward to our next date.

 

Also after I got home, he texted me a short while later and we're still talking so things went well for the both of us and we'll just see what happens next.

[d0nnivain]

Glad it worked out.

 

You are a great multi-tasker. A date & possibly a new job all in the same outing.