Elias33 Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 A challenge you find in a game. Chasing and "fighting" for someone, does that mean the woman is running away? Is she swinging her purse? How about being oneself and commit to honest communication, with kindness and mindfulness. The date/love "game, can hurt enough, all by itself. Be comrades in arms, at least respect, as we all are just looking for the one that intrigues us, that gets us, and loves us for who we are. Does chasing, playing games, etc, really result in a partner for life? Maybe, maybe not.
irc333 Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 When it comes to dating, do you prefer a challenge - some you have to chase and fight for and are not sure of, or no? Or is it really a matter of who you're actually interested in, whether they're a challenge or not you will go for and do what's required, and the challenge is just whether it masks lack of interest or not? No...why would I torture myself like that?!
somedude81 Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I like a challenge in that a girl shouldn't initiate kissing or sex, or let those things happen too soon. Also a girl shouldn't bend her life to make it work with me. In other words, no game playing. If you like me, return my texts and calls. Don't flake on dates. Don't try to cause drama or be difficult because you believe it's what men want.
OwMyEyeball Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 No. Whatever value she has is independent of how hard I had to "work" in my pursuit of her. I want simplicity. Life is complex enough as it is.
TouchedByViolet Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 No. I want an awesome, hot, intelligent, funny and caring girl to fall in my lap. That easy.
OwMyEyeball Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 No. I want an awesome, hot, intelligent, funny and caring guy to fall in my lap. That easy.
ltjg45 Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 The only time I want a challenge is when the women offering said challenge is worth the effort. I just don't see these women at all these days so when said woman makes it difficult, it is easy for me to abort and run as fast as I can. 2
Shepp Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Yeah. It's up there with ultimate turnoffs when a girls practically throwing herself at you! I'm not a fan of game playing for game playings sake but a genuine challenge - yeah that's hot 3
thefooloftheyear Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Nah.....I already have too many challenges in my life... You're in or you're out...simple as that... TFY 1
Keenly Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 If I like her, her throwing herself at me will not change my opinion of her. Her being difficult will change my opinion though, because I consider " being a challenge " game playing, because its not expressing who you really are or how you really feel. 2
Els Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 It's a bit of a balance, I think. Some men may 'prefer' a woman who is effortless to get, but that doesn't necessarily mean they will treasure her and treat her well. On the other hand, playing games and acting cold all the time is unlikely to intrigue anyone other than the immature men. I don't think you should play games or do whatever men 'prefer', but rather just think about what you need and want in a relationship, and uphold that from the very beginning. Giving them some space to initiate rather than doing all of it is also a good idea. 1
central Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I don't want the person to be a challenge to date, but if the circumstances present challenges, I'll deal with them if the person is worth it and the challenges can be overcome with reasonable effort. I expect a relationship to be mutually desirable and compatible pretty early on if I'm going to put time and effort into developing it further.
Priv Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I like simple. Boy likes girl. Girl likes boy. Boy and girl go kissing in the trees. I also think playing hard to get will lose you more men than gain you men. I also don't think the more of a challenge you present to more he values you. If he doesn't when you were no challenge, he was probably not that into you in the first place. But that's me.
gaius Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 Nah.....I already have too many challenges in my life... You're in or you're out...simple as that... TFY You seem to enjoy interacting with a particularly difficult person just as much as I do. 1
Shepp Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I don't think you should play games or do whatever men 'prefer', but rather just think about what you need and want in a relationship, and uphold that from the very beginning. Giving them some space to initiate rather than doing all of it is also a good idea. True!! I'd be pretty disappointed if that independent, captivating, intractable, magnetic and ever so slightly unattainable girl did a 180 the moment i...attained her. 1
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