tk8888 Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 About 3 months ago, I professed my love for a girl who I slept around with a little bit. We were also best friends who spent a ton of time together. She didn't feel the same way so I told her I don't want to see her again for a while. The next few months were tough as I thought about her a lot and she wasn't shy about reaching out sober or drunk. For the first month, I never responded. For the next month I responded a little bit, but refused to spend time with her. It also helped that I was studying for the GMAT and started dating another gal shortly thereafter. I'm also in a young professional org where I put together social events. She essentially has been coming to these events and trying to spend time with me like nothing has changed and I respond by treating her like an acquaintance vs a close friend and spent more time with other people (including attractive women) which is a must because of social obligations I have. She has been storming out and pretending like she doesn't notice me when she does. How do I get this girl out of my life? I'm a different person away from her and have changed for the better over the last 3 months. Spending time or even seeing her just reminds me that I was a little bitch when we were best friends. I don't want to hurt her, but I do want her gone out of my life. Harsh I know, but toxic relationships don't need to be a part of my life.
Dork Vader Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 You start by blocking her number, removing her from social media and the like. If she attends social events, work, school you're at you're going to have to ignore her and deal with it. 2
MoreCoffee Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Called being unavailable to the tenth power.
Mrin Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Read the NC guide and follow it. Remove all connections. Block. Ignore. Tell her to leave you alone if she continues. If you really want her out if your life for good then you have to burn some bridges. Forever.
d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 If you have the power to make sure she doesn't get the invites do that.
gaius Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Some part of you must still want her to be there if you can't be mean. It's pretty easy to get rid of someone if you really want to. And as long as she senses that's the case she probably won't leave you alone.
Assasda Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Congratulations man. Congrats on changing, congrats on realizing what you were and admitting it. - A regular success story. Since you arnt the way you were, I think that you can be friends with her actually, if youve really changed, that is. But if she's someone that you think is no good for you and not the quality woman youre looking for, just try to stay out of her way, and read up on the NC stuff all over this forum
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