mightycpa Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 What do you do? You do the same thing you'd do if he was not dating, or she was not the one, or if he were dead. You move on, and don't worry about the past, or what might have been. You have plenty to worry about with what IS. It's a big world out there. There's probably at least 100 "The One"s for you out there, or close enough facsimiles, and if you don't get back in dating shape and get out dating again, you'll never meet them. I'm not saying date now, but I am saying, heal and move forward. That's really all you can do. 3
Author HurtingGirl Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 i do know he wasnt cheating.
Author HurtingGirl Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 thanks. yesterday i was fine but today i am horrible. whirlwind of emotions right now and thinking too much i guess.
deathandtaxes Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 i do know he wasnt cheating. If it wasn't a Physical Affair, then it was definitely an Emotional Affair. He left you for her. That's how he was able to move so quickly. As the dumper, he won't be prone to a rebound. He had been planning this for a while. It was 'whoah' to you, but 'damn, about time' for him. Stay strong, OP. Go back to NC. Stay that way. It will just hurt you again and impede your healing.
evanescentworld Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 i do know he wasnt cheating. Totally and utterly irrelevant. whether he was cheating or not, it's over. He's your ex, and you're his. He's a free agent, and so are you. Absolutely avoid all and any Contact from now on, and follow mightycpa's advice, to the letter.
Author HurtingGirl Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Update...ex contacted me apologizing for the other day and telling me he thought she was the one. He said he was still a bit angry from what happened between us. He is still living with her but I do feel a bit better that he apologized, I even slept last night. Today, now that I know he did still care it will be easier to move on. I will do my best and let him be with her. Today is a new beginning.
KaliLove Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Uh..you realize this dude is a loser right? He was living with you because you paid all his bills and he moved out when you got angry about it. Now he's living with her because she's paying all his bills..eventually she'll get angry and kick his sorry butt out too. Then he'll probably come crawling back to you (or another girl who's willing to pay for his existence) but hopefully you'll have moved on to someone who can take care of himself by then and you won't care. Massive worthless loser bullet dodged!
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