Themanwithaplan Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Looking for some statistics on people out there experiencing good results on limited dates over a relatively long period of time. Recently I've been dating someone with above average progression in terms of intimacy, but only 4 dates over 4 months. Chemistry is there, and it's always exciting and memorable. We're just two busy people and I get the feeling we both have high interest but some apprehensions as well. Anybody ever experience a similar situation with good end results?
mightycpa Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Sorry, love to help, but no. Somehow, the ones that worked out always made the time. The ones that didn't got left behind. That said, I was probably dating more than you appear to be. Anyway, I wish you two lotsa luck!
Mrin Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Due to my geographic location and the proximity to the women I date, it goes slower than most. Maybe 4 - 5 dates a month. But that's light speed compared to you two! When i've taken it that slow the relationships either turn out to be FWB's or just casual dating. All that being said - there are plenty of folks out there in good LDR's with that sort of date frequency. You just both need to build a really strong rapport. Like talk or write each other every day. Doesn't sound like that is the case as you are both so busy. Sorry I don't have better news!
mightycpa Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 It might be too early to come to a conclusion, but the takeaway I have so far is: Ask her if she's willing to make the time to increase the frequency of seeing each other. Like start with 2X per month, and go from there. I'm sure there's a way to make that work, isn't there?
Author Themanwithaplan Posted September 9, 2014 Author Posted September 9, 2014 Yeah, we don't do the whole text/talk on the phone thing. The only time we talk via phone is to set up a date. It looks like both our jobs are allowing for more free time simultaneously, so if it picks up, it's going to be in the coming weeks. In any case, I have a date with someone new set for the weekend
Author Themanwithaplan Posted September 9, 2014 Author Posted September 9, 2014 It might be too early to come to a conclusion, but the takeaway I have so far is: Ask her if she's willing to make the time to increase the frequency of seeing each other. Like start with 2X per month, and go from there. I'm sure there's a way to make that work, isn't there? I didn't talk to her for a week, and she randomly texted me she should be free for most weekends from now on(She recently quit her second job). Hopeful it'll pick up, but I've taken a step back at this point so I'm not totally invested.
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