Orije Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Hello guys. So I had a horrible day today in which i will explain. I met this girl on Tinder who seemed really nice. We texted for a few days and planned to meet up to go for a run together so we get to know each other more. Well the weather turned out horrible and she asked if we can go to my place and just watch netflix. I know its not good to take a girl to your house when you just met her. So we planned to order pizza and this is when the horrible day starts. The pizza took about 30 minutes to be made, but they added drinks and stuff too. The bad part was she wanted to wait in the car and it was awkward and I tried to make conversation. After that we went to my house and tried watching a movie, but as soon as i put my arm around her and we got relaxed, my family came home and made everything awkward. So we went to my room to watch netflix and I can tell she was feeling uncomfortable the whole time. The whole day felt horrible and I even apologized that today wasn't as planned and for what happened. I just dropped her off and I don't know what to do. I feel like i ruined a chance with a good girl. any advice? Thanks guys
mightycpa Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 any advice? Yes! 1) Don't take girls home to watch netflix the first time you meet them, or for the first couple dates. You can't get to know anybody that way. Take them OUT! You probably know that now. 2) Create a 10 item list of plan B dates that can be taken with little to no notice or planning. That way, you don't have to get creative on the spot, and you can have addresses and numbers at your fingertips. 3) Call her and tell her that you thought the date felt weird, and that it was YOUR FAULT. Tell her that you should have suggested something better to do, like ______________________________________. Then roll right into, can we try that instead this _________ day? Good luck! 1
Author Orije Posted September 9, 2014 Author Posted September 9, 2014 I logged on facebook and she blocked me. I didn't do a single thing to her and yet I am blocked. I don't know how to feel right now....
mightycpa Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Do you have telephones where you are? CALL HER. You can salvage this, but only by phone, and only right now. Oh and don't even mention facebook.
Author Orije Posted September 9, 2014 Author Posted September 9, 2014 I tried to call her. I already sent her a text telling her thanks for blocking me. She broke up with her boyfriend a week ago. I don't think she is the right one, but still I don't know why I got blocked :/
OwMyEyeball Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Sounds like you're both inexperienced and dealing with a little bit of emotional fallout. Learn from this one and move on
preraph Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 You needed to ask her for a real date. She may have suggested Netflix because it's free and you hadn't asked her for a real date.
mightycpa Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 I tried to call her. I already sent her a text telling her thanks for blocking me. She broke up with her boyfriend a week ago. I don't think she is the right one, but still I don't know why I got blocked :/ You're done. Whiny text? Done! Oh well. On to greener pastures. Live, and learn.
Mrin Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 You're done. Whiny text? Done! Oh well. On to greener pastures. Live, and learn. Yup. Whiny texts = The End. The reason she blocked you on FB is that she was just hitting the next button. You shouldn't have overreacted if you wanted to salvage it. You probably also shouldn't friend up women so quickly either. Lastly, you shouldn't have brought it over to your place if your family was potentially going to walk in the door. That would totally wig most people out. But as mightycpa said, live and learn. Good luck!
Author Orije Posted September 9, 2014 Author Posted September 9, 2014 Thanks everyone and yes I do regret sending the whiny text. I will make sure that doesn't happen again. Its just that I thought entering the dating world again would come out positive, but this had to happen. I don't know if to just stay single and not look for dates or to try just again :/
mightycpa Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Thanks everyone and yes I do regret sending the whiny text. I will make sure that doesn't happen again. Its just that I thought entering the dating world again would come out positive, but this had to happen. I don't know if to just stay single and not look for dates or to try just again :/ Refer to line 2 in my original advice, do it, THEN try again. No more whiny texts, no matter how tempted you are!
TB Rhine Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 The passive-aggressive text essentially called her out and demanded she take responsibility for her childish behavior. This is something a woman will never do. By trying to make any further contact with her, you'll be backing down from this, hence burying yourself even further. The girl went home with you. She apparently hung out IN YOUR ROOM with you for an extended period of time. I'd say her "discomfort" probably came from wondering just what the heck it would take to get you to make a move. 1) Don't take girls home to watch netflix the first time you meet them, or for the first couple dates. You can't get to know anybody that way. Take them OUT! You probably know that now. 2) Create a 10 item list of plan B dates that can be taken with little to no notice or planning. That way, you don't have to get creative on the spot, and you can have addresses and numbers at your fingertips. 3) Call her and tell her that you thought the date felt weird, and that it was YOUR FAULT. Tell her that you should have suggested something better to do, like ______________________________________. Then roll right into, can we try that instead this _________ day? Good luck! Follow this advice if you're committed to a lifetime of being a p*ssy who never gets laid.
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