Wisecrack Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I've been through two degrees on top of highschool and such. Throughout I've made friends with everyone I've met over the years. The common denominator was a few whom I'd always be messaging to keep in contact with and as you spend time with people, you become good mates, hanging out together and the likes. Of current I've moved to a new state, made more friends and was just curious the other day on checking up on old friends. To my surprise was the amount whom had simply deleted me off facebook. I don't understand this. This is especially when they remain friends with those of our extended circles that were not really friends in the first place yet when I made the effort and getting caught up in life, I was the first to go. They all follow the following scenario where: a friend deletes me but she/ he is still friends with 40-50 of mine whom we all went to university together with; half of which were acquaintances whom never talked to them. I don't get this. I mean, I was a good friend, helping hand, lent notes, kept in touch, gave them lifts when it started raining. Yet the moment I stopped making an effort (when they never did), I get dropped like a door mat. Sorry for this rant but I just needed to get it out. I'm not normally self-absorbed type but I really thought these were good mates of mine. 1
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 maybe i like my privacy more than most on the net. Due to recent interent issues with governent and corprate snooping privacy is on a lot of minds. So FB is being dropped or peeps are limiting what they share with current updates. I dont care for being a number in marketing gimmicks. So Google and FB are not places i bother with. So I socialize privately instead of public arena.
Sugarkane Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 It's happened to me Also Wisecrack. Plus friends that I went to school with, are friends with people who they were NEVER friends with at all, in school.
Toodaloo Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Once upon a time in a land several thousand miles away there was a girl who had a best friend. They did everything together and were as close as close can be until one time the best friend met a boy. They never saw each other again. And never will. After she left I was richer, happier and more content. There is a saying - some friends are there for a reason and some are there for a season. I shouldn't bother to take it personally. Go and live instead.
preraph Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 There are people who are friends only when it's convenient or they want something from you. I have to say that there were large groups of people who all got together in college, but I never considered that extended circle friends. We just were in the same place and attending the same parties. There was one girl who I'd known since high school and she was very goody-goody but you know, we'd do slumber parties and stuff. Then she was in college with us and better friends with one of our mutual friends there. I never understood why she was hanging around in our group because we were wild. I never understood why she didn't find some girls more her speed. And in fact, she got married suddenly to a guy her mother introduced her to and kept it secret right up until the wedding and then didn't even invite anyone except the one girl (not that I cared). Just saying some people hang out because someone will just let them but haven't enough motivation to go find people of their own kind or whatever. That girl just did what her mommy told her to do and wasn't a real friend, despite the many years I knew her. If you think people are fickle from college, wait until you see who your real friends are from work once you leave the job or get fired or whatever. I had a lot of people acting like they were big friends with me because I guess their job was to suck up to me and they nearly all disappeared once I was out of the business for awhile. I remember there was one who acted friendly, was my sales rep. We took the day off from work once to just go to the waterpark. Once I wasn't working there anymore, next time I saw her even though I was back in the business by then, she was outright nasty to me. I don't know how people go through their work lives being fake friendly to people. I never did it even though it might have benefited me. I might be very polite but never pretend to be friends to keep a good working relationship. Your friends are the ones there when you're not on top of the world, who don't want anything from you but your company.
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