jimbeck Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I've been trying OLD for two months. At first I hardly had any messages or replies but after I updated my profile and added more photos I had better results. I made an effort to communicate with as many women who were in my 100 mi radius. I started to check off those I didn't have much interest or attraction after several messages. I narrowed my interest level to two women. One lives about 100 miles away and the other 35 miles. I'm now at the point where I'm trying to set a place and time to meet these women. However, it is at this point that I'm running into some major setbacks. The woman who lives 100 mi away informed me on Saturday that she doesn't have a vehicle which means I have to drive all the way there to meet her. Although she did say that she plans to lease a car in October and she thinks I am 'bf material'. The woman who lives 35 mi way who is my first pick, said she's not looking for a relationship right now but she stills wants to meet. I don't know why a female would join an OLD site, exchange messages for weeks when she not looking for a relationship it just doesn't make sense. Those of you who have had experience in OLD are these common occurrences?
Zippy2000 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Similar to my situation back in 2005. I met this lovely woman back then and she lived in the next city. About an hours drive. Initially I offered to drive through but her she then offered for us to meet somewhere half way. Eventually we agreed to meet in her city. That relationship lasted for about a year. Looking bacdk it was hard seeing her but she still used to come and see me for 3 hours even after taking 2 trains to see me! The other woman you describe who does not want a relationship. Some people go on dating sites to see whats out there. Testing the water. I d not emotionally invest in her too much. Hope this helps and good luck
d0nnivain Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 With OLD you can never tell. Meet the closer woman. Since she has already said she doesn't want a relationship, the pressure is off. You can go & have fun. "practice" dating again, if you will. Meanwhile set up some other stuff until the 100 mile away woman is ready in October or find a reason to go where she is & kill 2 birds with one stone.
FitChick Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 See the closer one. She might be saying she doesn't want a relationship because she wants a handy excuse in case she doesn't like you in person. You can still communicate with the one farther away while dating others. You may build enough of a rapport so that she would be willing to make more of an effort and meet you somewhere halfway and spend a day.
Assasda Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Seems like youre talking too seriously to women that you havnt even met yet. ie, Dont even know. You should ask the 100 miler, what makes you BF material since she doesnt know you yet. the 35 miler sounds more level headed. Dont worry about what she says, just worry about meeting, and getting to know her. Everything that women says usually go out the window, when they meet someone that they can vibe with, and more importantly, someone they trust
Author jimbeck Posted September 9, 2014 Author Posted September 9, 2014 Thanks everyone for the great advice. I now have a better understanding on how to proceed in both cases.
Recommended Posts