WhiskeyJack Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Having a slight debate with someone about this. I find it creepy/weird for a guy to use pet names like "babe" or "hun" after talking to me for 1 day, when we met on OLD. Hadn't even met in person yet. The other person says it's cute and they're just being nice. What side of the spectrum are you on?
PegNosePete Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Creepy/weird. If someone uses pet names so easily then you can be they are using them on other people just as soon. It loses all its value and meaning when it's given so freely.
Thruster Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 with you on this one jack no names for at least 7 - 12 days of dates standard law or if she buys -- well down to 2 dates then
mammasita Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I think its weird, like he does it to everyone and I'm not special. Everyone likes to feel special, right?
longjohn Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 It's odd, I'm personally against "pet names" or anything generic until there's a relationship established. I prefer they remember my name first vs some other name they may have used with their last bf. 1
amaysngrace Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 It's odd, I'm personally against "pet names" or anything generic until there's a relationship established. I prefer they remember my name first vs some other name they may have used with their last bf. Yea it's like my Uncle Sonny who married into the family...he can't keep all our names straight so he just calls every female "Angel" 2
HeartDesires Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 What side of the spectrum are you on? It's creepy/weird and would leave me feeling awfully uncomfortable...
Author WhiskeyJack Posted September 8, 2014 Author Posted September 8, 2014 Exactly! I felt like he had forgot my name or something, not at all special.
fred123 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 is "hey baby" a pet name? the girl i liked online used to call me hey babe and i used to call her hun or baby too. but wen we met finally she said we were only ever friends. is this mixed signal or do friends call each other babe and baby?
MissBee Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Having a slight debate with someone about this. I find it creepy/weird for a guy to use pet names like "babe" or "hun" after talking to me for 1 day, when we met on OLD. Hadn't even met in person yet. The other person says it's cute and they're just being nice. What side of the spectrum are you on? I dislike it. It seems disingenuous and obviously something you say to everyone. I don't like it personally. It's not cute to me. It just seems very contrived and this fake way of making things seem intimate when we're still strangers. I much prefer a man to leave out such names until we have some kind of relationship going.
MissBee Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 is "hey baby" a pet name? the girl i liked online used to call me hey babe and i used to call her hun or baby too. but wen we met finally she said we were only ever friends. is this mixed signal or do friends call each other babe and baby? I would never call a platonic guy friend babe personally or baby even worse. I reserve baby for actual bfs and babe as well. However, I call my girlfriends babe/babes and hon sometimes. But never my guy friends, well maybe once in a while I'll say "Thanks hon" or something to a male friend but generally I don't do that.
d0nnivain Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Babe & Hon aren't pet names. They are fillers when someone can't remember your name. I was a bartender for years & a lot of customers called me those things when they wanted my attention. I don't put any more stock in them than that but I also wouldn't necesarily stop talking to someone for that alone, assuming other things were clicking. If it bugs you that much point blank say, "I'd prefer if you called me WhiskeyJack rather than babe or hon."
amaysngrace Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I call my dog "baby" and sometimes I call him "baby dog" but I do know his name
OwMyEyeball Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I don't see the problem with that, Whiskeypoo
Mrin Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Out of hand? Creepy. But if there is an inside joke or really great chemistry then I could see it. But it would need to be more on the inside joke track for me.
katinlc Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I definitely think it is creepy... I'm not huge into pet names anyways, but I don't mind a babe or a hun with someone I'm dating, but before I've even met them? I started to talk to someone via text who immediately started using darling and honey in almost every text. In one text, he said called me darling 3 times (and this was like a 3 line text max). I was very turned off by this and let him fade away.
fred123 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 i called her baby cos we both liked each other on facebook chatting and i wanted to show her that i liked her more than a friend. if she had a problem with that then wouldnt she say? plus she called me babe back. also do u say things like "miss you" to guys just as friends
fred123 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I definitely think it is creepy... I'm not huge into pet names anyways, but I don't mind a babe or a hun with someone I'm dating, but before I've even met them? I started to talk to someone via text who immediately started using darling and honey in almost every text. In one text, he said called me darling 3 times (and this was like a 3 line text max). I was very turned off by this and let him fade away. but what if the girl reciprocates and says hey baby back? what about if a girl says good morning <3 <3 <3? with all these hearts every day?
preraph Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with it, but I do agree if he's saying them to you, he's saying them to other women as well. I had a many thousands of email online relationship years ago and he had a thing he called me. Then I later went on his FB and there was this gross girl there whose avatar was a photo of her licking her own boob and she used this same "endearment" on him, so I don't know where he found the time in between the gazillion emails he was writing me, but he did....
katinlc Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 but what if the girl reciprocates and says hey baby back? what about if a girl says good morning <3 <3 <3? with all these hearts every day? I would definitely look at the specific situation in deciding the pet names over some generalization...I never use pet names for someone that is not my bf. but I also struggle to use them at all...just not my thing, though I don't mind at all if my bf or someone I was dating called me babe. What creeped me out with this particular guy was the overuse of pet names. Every text he sent me had a pet name.
fred123 Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 I would definitely look at the specific situation in deciding the pet names over some generalization...I never use pet names for someone that is not my bf. but I also struggle to use them at all...just not my thing, though I don't mind at all if my bf or someone I was dating called me babe. What creeped me out with this particular guy was the overuse of pet names. Every text he sent me had a pet name. but u girls all agree pet names are for those you like?
Themanwithaplan Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Yeah, it's pretty weird. I wouldn't call a girl by anything but her name for at least 4-6 months. Even then, pet names are rare for me. Seems kinda needy and screams insecurity and over-infatuation.
travelbug1996 Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 if i like a guy and he calls me sweetie i might call him baby. no big deal.
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