highlyevolved Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Okay, firstly - we are both male. Secondly a brief bit of background; we met at a club, hooked up and he slept over. We exchanged numbers and I set up a date for a week later. He cancelled on me due to "lack of funds" which I accepted and I basically told him when he has funds again to contact me. I ended up making contact about 4 days after his last text (general chit chat) and he said he had "money but time was now an issue and he didn't wanna screw me around" but said he really wanted to see me. I was like "look, ill come to yours" - he lives an hour away, "what days are you free?". Ended up picking Saturday. And we agreed Finally went over to his place, had friends over, drinking, chilling, dancing. The rest of his friends went out after a few hours, we stayed in cuddled and kissed, talked, sleep together. I told him that he is welcomed to my place and we could maybe cook pizza. He said yeah. We get on really well. As I was leaving I said "let me know when you wanna chill next" and he mentioned having "no time with work/study but he will find time". He is BIG on travelling having lived in Europe for a year and travelled extensively throughout America. He wants to apply for a Maltese passport (so obviously has intentions of living there) but that wouldn't be until 2016. I also get the impression he is pretty chilled and relaxed (said he loves to just crash on his couch and drink wine mid week) and said he is super bad at organising things. My assumption is he only wants something casual and I want something more permanent. I guess it's my fault for assuming he might actually want to date. Is it worth pursuing or do you think he just wants to be "young, wild, free"? He hasn't contacted me since dropping me off, and neither have I. I think i've played my hand and CLEARLY am keen, it's up to him now to make the next move right. Should i make zero contact.
Toodaloo Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I am sure he is lovely but he has other things on his mind and really you should be tops. Your not. Walk away. Find someone who can and will devote their time to you instead.
slizl Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 The cancelling due to lack of funds rubs me the wrong way. He could have planned something that was free. What he was really hoping for was for you to offer to pay, but you played it well and cancelled. Don't know how to play this one, but good luck!
preraph Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 He's either not ready to have a real girlfriend or you're not the real girlfriend he's ready for and he's been honest and up front that he's not prepared to organize anything or give you any time except hookup time. So if you want more, leave him behind. If you want to hookup and keep looking and dating other guys, go for it.
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