brklynzdimka Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Hi everyone. so Im not great at the dating scene but at the same time i'm very confident and comfortable in my own skin. Currently Im about to go on a first date with a really nice girl. we have kept in touch for quite a while via text and always have stuff to talk about. I planned out the date quite well and am looking forward to it. My question is HOW and WHEN should I go in for a first kiss. I want to make this a relationship and don't want to mess things up by waiting too long or going in to early. Can I ask for a first kiss?, do i grow some balls and just go for it?, how do i know its the right time?, how long should i wait? or should I go for it at the first date?( if things go well), how can I tell if she's down for it?, how do I physically perform going in for the kiss? etc . please give me as much detailed information as you can. Thank you . i appreciate all the help guys. we are going out next week. ( the act of kissing is not the problem, its getting there that i'm questioning)
Polak Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 First date might be a bit quick.... why not wait until the second or third date? As far as the kiss itself, she will give you cues (body language) of whether she is open to it or not. You will know when the opportunity arises. I have been told that certain girls think it shows a lot about a man's character (in a positive way) if he asks her for a kiss instead of just going for it. I think that's up for interpretation though... every girl is different.
Assasda Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 You dont want to think about that right now. You dont even know the girl yet. But when She wants to be kissed you'll know. She'll give off signs
d0nnivain Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 There are some natural points. For a 1st date, that is usually at the end of the evening. Walk her to her door. Stand close to her & look in her eyes. If she wants you to kiss her she will stare back, lean in slightly & lick her lips. If she does not do all of those things, give her a quick peck on the cheek, nothing more. 1
mightycpa Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Don't spoil it by examining it to death before you do it. Go out, have a good time, and pay attention to the signals. How does she look at you? How does she smile at you? What does her body language say? Don't go for it too fast, and don't wait too long. It could be on the first date, it might have to wait for another one. There's no book, no magic formula. Somehow, you'll muddle through and figure it out. Enjoy. 1
Mrin Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I normally don't kiss on the first date unless there are fireworks and then it is only at the end. So whether it is first or second or third dates, a few suggestions: 1. Make physical contact early in the date. Just a simple arm touch or a light touch on the small of her back. Nothing creepy or suggestive - you're just looking to break that physical barrier. I always hug when I meet someone for the first time. I'm a hugger! 2. First Kiss: Just do it. Don't ask. Just do. 3. How and When: choose a moment in time where you have prolonged eye contact. Make sure you have eye contact and close proximity. Then lean in and very lightly touch her lips with yours. Closed mouth. Eyes closed. Linger there for a few seconds, pull back, exhale, and say "wow" or "that was really nice". See how she responds. Does she blush and look down? Does she run her hand through her hair tucking it under her ear? If so, maybe lean in for a second kiss, and maybe this time lightly cradle her cheek or back of her neck with a hand. Or even just brush her cheek with your thumb as if you are lightly touching a fine piece of crystal. Anyhow, you get the idea. Best of luck! EDIT: In the end, with first kisses, you need to just do it and less is usually more.
me85 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 This is really cute. Watch Hitch. (= You'll be fine. You'll be able to tell when it's time to kiss her. 1
preraph Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 It's a date. Give her a kiss on the lips at the end of the date. Hold her tight for a couple of seconds and then go in for the kiss. If she doesn't want to she'll either say or move her head to the side. If it goes well, longer better kiss the next date. 1
Author brklynzdimka Posted September 8, 2014 Author Posted September 8, 2014 Thanks for the help guys
Supernatural Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Hi everyone. so Im not great at the dating scene but at the same time i'm very confident and comfortable in my own skin. Currently Im about to go on a first date with a really nice girl. we have kept in touch for quite a while via text and always have stuff to talk about. I planned out the date quite well and am looking forward to it. My question is HOW and WHEN should I go in for a first kiss. I want to make this a relationship and don't want to mess things up by waiting too long or going in to early. Can I ask for a first kiss?, do i grow some balls and just go for it?, how do i know its the right time?, how long should i wait? or should I go for it at the first date?( if things go well), how can I tell if she's down for it?, how do I physically perform going in for the kiss? etc . please give me as much detailed information as you can. Thank you . i appreciate all the help guys. we are going out next week. ( the act of kissing is not the problem, its getting there that i'm questioning) Don't ever ask to kiss her. Honestly, don't even premeditate the first kiss. It's one of those great moments. Where it just happens. It's like life... Don't expect... Just show up and be your best. Trust yourself and have confidence you're awesome. The moment will be known to you, if you are in-tune to it. Just have fun, be yourself and naturally it will show itself if everything is going well. Trust it will show up, and it will. Having a point deigned in your mind of when and where you will kiss her... Is so pressured and it most likely won't happen. And if it does, it won't be as good anyways, because you have already thought of it and put pressure on it and probably screw it up. read my signature.
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 Hi everyone. so Im not great at the dating scene but at the same time i'm very confident and comfortable in my own skin. Currently Im about to go on a first date with a really nice girl. we have kept in touch for quite a while via text and always have stuff to talk about. I planned out the date quite well and am looking forward to it. My question is HOW and WHEN should I go in for a first kiss. I want to make this a relationship and don't want to mess things up by waiting too long or going in to early. Can I ask for a first kiss?, do i grow some balls and just go for it?, how do i know its the right time?, how long should i wait? or should I go for it at the first date?( if things go well), how can I tell if she's down for it?, how do I physically perform going in for the kiss? etc . please give me as much detailed information as you can. Thank you . i appreciate all the help guys. we are going out next week. ( the act of kissing is not the problem, its getting there that i'm questioning) Here: First kiss - AskMen
Author brklynzdimka Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 hey. so i read all ur comments and thought about it a lot. this is nothing new to me but i think im just gonna be myself and not take myself or the date to seriously. and just have a good time. weve been texting back and forth for a while now and i think i feel pretty comfortable around her even with not having seeing her for a long time. cant wait. thanks again
Recommended Posts