Seraque Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 HI people, I feel like I've been able to process my feelings and seeing signs much better since I've read LS, but sometimes in the moment I'm never really sure what to do/how to act. Maybe it's just my personality. A guy & I had been dating for the past 4 months, we met online. When I went out w/him 1st & 2nd date he already mentioned stuff like, I'm not sure where I'll go work next (he's in between jobs, out of choice), I might move, etc. But he expressed signs of interest so we kept going out. He did say he's looking for something more/a gf so I knew he wasn't just looking to hookup. I wanted things to happen naturally and wasn't too hung up on getting somewhere so just enjoyed it. But after like a month of dating, right before he went on a long trip I kind of brought up the fact that he's kept his distance from me. In my mind I think if you like someone a lot you'd take things to the next level, and if it's not happening means you're not that into them. I gave him a little pressure because I knew how my other relationships started & the guys were excited about me and made it exclusive after just a few dates. I just never expected this gray area. It's extremely confusing...it's been like another couple months since, and basically I'm telling him it's ok if it doesn't work out, but a couple times he's basically patched things up and taken me out, tried to work it out but now it's at a stage where we couldn't ignore it, and he's just not ready. We're over now. During the time we dated it was also screwed up coz he lashed out at me a couple times over stupid stuff, and didn't communicate regularly. Ladies/gents take care of yourself & don't ignore your gut!! So lesson is, don't think you'll be the exception, always listen to the person & what they say, I think I stayed a little too long and should have cut him off after date 2, but I was too curious and tried to see where it would go.
cristalina Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Hugs! Instincts almost never lie. I've had to remind myself regularly that it's okay for me to not do something if I don't feel right about something. It's okay to walk away if something is off. I don't ignore my gut anymore! -Cris
Jules Dash Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I am of the thought to always trust your instincts. Your instincts process important information on a subconscious level and then sets off an alarm to you. Ignore the alarm at your own risk.
Gloria25 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Well, that's what's dating for - to see if you're a match and good thing you found out what he's about a few months in rather than a year or so in... Good luck,
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