d0nnivain Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 If you are concerned about your extra 20 pounds & the long term effects your weight & eating habits may have, why not change them for real not just to impress a date? I never had an issue with what somebody ate but I will confess to being judge-y about table manners.
slizl Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 (edited) Jesus christ people, talk about bashing this poor guy for doing what probably 50% (including probably most if not all women) or more people do on a first date! I love steak and potatoes and can really pig out, but on a first date, I stick with a salad and a healthy entree. Keep ordering your healthy meals on dates bro. People of LS, seems like we are on edge a little bit today. Let's keep it a little more positive! I know it's Monday, but jeez! Edited September 8, 2014 by slizl
hellon Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Jesus christ people, talk about bashing this poor guy for doing what probably 50% (including probably most if not all women) or more people do on a first date! I love steak and potatoes and can really pig out, but on a first date, I stick with a salad and a healthy entree. Keep ordering your healthy meals on dates bro. People of LS, seems like we are on edge a little bit today. Let's keep it a little more positive! I know it's Monday, but jeez! Not bashing- but the concern is that OP is talking about keeping up the deception long term, not just trying to impress on a first date. There's a big difference.
MissBee Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I love food. I definitely think that's one thing that I tend to like in a man, a man who is a foodie like myself and likes trying different cuisine. I see no point in pretending to be vegetarian or not ordering what you really want on a date. It's like women who order salad because they don't want to eat in front of their date. Sorry, I think in high school I was less self confident so might have done that, but now...nope I get whatever the heck I want and don't pretend to only want to eat salad if I really want the big, juicy, burger. The only thing is on a first date I want to be cute so will avoid super messy foods and go for stuff that is easier to eat without being messy. But that's the only concern. As long as a man isn't literally being gluttonous by say ordering multiple entrees and gobbling them down or exhibits poor table manners, food spilling everywhere out of his mouth and he's wiping his hand in his clothes or something, I don't care. If a woman is a health nut or vegetarian who is bothered by you eating meat, simply know you will not be a good match. There are plenty of other women who don't care. 1
Gaeta Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 That thread reminds me of an episode of Seinfeld that men should not order salad when at restaurant on a date. It demasculinizes them. Personally I prefer when a man eats like a man meaning he enjoys food. 1
mightycpa Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 One of my biggest weaknesses as a human being is gluttony and eating junk food. Eating too much junk food can be a turn off to women if I do it in their presence. For this reason I try not to order the food I really want to eat when I am out on a dinner date. I usually order a more vegetarian meal on those dates just so I don't take the risk of offending my date. Although at some point if the relationship gets serious she may want to know why I am 20 pounds overweight. You really need to turn your thinking upside down. Each that veggie stuff when you're not on a date. Splurge when you are. Lose that 20 pounds, along with your weaknesses and your upside-down thinking. Watch the quality of your love life skyrocket.
Supernatural Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 One of my biggest weaknesses as a human being is gluttony and eating junk food. Eating too much junk food can be a turn off to women if I do it in their presence. For this reason I try not to order the food I really want to eat when I am out on a dinner date. I usually order a more vegetarian meal on those dates just so I don't take the risk of offending my date. Although at some point if the relationship gets serious she may want to know why I am 20 pounds overweight. If you're date gets offended by what you eat, than that's just crazy! I don't think you should hide anything, especially eating habits from a woman. I LOVE junk-food and will eat it in copious amounts. I workout intensely so my body can handle it and process it very well. No acne, health problems, etc. After my workout rolls around - 9pm - I go to town on anything. Nutella, reese puffs, milk, ice cream, pizza, etc etc. If I go on a date.. I act like a kid and get really excited for dessert. Even if the girl is super uptight, she will have fun and know she can have fun eating too. Sh*t, I tell the girl to order 2 desserts. And take one home for tomorrow night. I don't give a sh*t. If a woman is going to get offended that I ordered a mountain lava cake with extra ice cream... That's sad and boring. She can enjoy her sesame snaps alone at home watching re-runs of FRIENDS instead of enjoying deliciousness. During the day before my workout... I eat really healthy. So, if everything is in balance... I suppose it's all good. If I was overweight and looked messy, I suppose that would change things. I dated a girl who was on a serious health kick and it seemed that everything I ate, she had a comment for. This is not good for you, that's not good for you and blah, blah, blah, and one day we went to dinner and I order a prime rib that was the mother of all prime rib and I ate it all including the fat, baked potato with a pint of sour cream on it and strawberry short cake loaded with whipped cream. She didn't say much on the way home and I was too full to say anything but I finally told her this is who I am. I accept you for who you are so do the same for me. Naturally it didn't last. If she wants to eat seeds and grass like that fine, but don't put me down for what I eat. Hahah too full to talk!! Hilarious. People can be really annoying about the foods they eat. Especially if they're super healthy. STFU... No one cares that you have wheat grass for breakfast and you eat 900 calories a day. I'm not going to start doing that. Diets are becoming like a religion. Soon I'll have people knocking on my door from the Veggie Palace acting like Jehovah Witness. 1
Supernatural Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Darren probably has secret candy outlets around his place for when people come to his house. So he can have a nice veggie dinner when they go out then be his real self around his place in secret... Bags of "Sour Patch Kids" duct taped under the toilet top cover. Malteasers in the air vents Aero Chocolate bars in the speakers Cheesies in a vase Caramel popcorn in a throw pillow "Darren.. You're sure going to the bathroom a lot tonight.. Did you have too much broccoli, babe?" ----- "This speaker is just not working - eats food - probably... Hmm." ----- "Do you hear that rattling in the vent? I'm gonna go check it out." -----
Omei Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Your dates prob dont give two hoots about what you're eating. 1
MissBee Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I thought the whole point of dating is to evaluate how much potential there is for a long term building a life with someone. Right...but I doubt most people can determine that by your meal on a first date. It's really not that deep. Unless you are dating a dietitian or someone as caught up as you are, chances are most women won't care what you order and won't make any judgments about your suitability as a life partner and future health risks based on ONE MEAL on the first date. Further, the point is, if you plan to date a woman don't you think at some point, second, third, thirteenth date she'll figure out your dietary habits and if she wants to penalize you will do so then? How is hiding it on the first date beneficial? Or do you plan to pretend to be a vegetarian eater the entire time until you marry you pull out the steak and say surprise?? Part of dating is being your GENUINE SELF so that you find folks who GENUINELY like YOU. Not pretending to be other than you are to lure them into dating you. That's called pulling the old bait and switch. You do one thing to bait them and get them interested under false pretenses then when you have their interest and feel they won't leave you switch it up.
Diezel Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 You don't think she'll notice, one day when he stops eating his "veggie dishes" and eats like crap? It's a bait-and-switch. It's a lie. He's hoping that she'll be so accepting of him further down the line, that she will overlook this and stay with him. Don't we call that false advertising sometimes? How do you explain that? "Well, I was doing that before. But now you get to see the real me. Can you pass me the A1 please?" You don't think she'll start to wonder about whatever else he might have been concealing? It'll spark in her mind. 1
Author Darren2013 Posted September 10, 2014 Author Posted September 10, 2014 Ah...so lying and deception, then? Why do you think any woman would be more likely to tolerate you lying to and deceiving her, than the fact that you eat junk food? On the other side, would you consider reducing your junk food intake for your own peace of mind and also physical health? It just sounds like a bad habit, or even addiction, that is obviously causing you concern, anxiety, guilt, self-recriminations, etc. Actually at this time I'm not so sure it should be a high priority concern to reduce my junk food intake. I've been battling lymphoma cancer and there have been some indications that it is terminal. I have been slowly losing weight without trying for the last 6 months because of the cancer so I may not even be 20 pounds overweight at this time but maybe more like 12-15 pounds overweight. If this trend continues then I probably won't have to worry about going on any special diet anyway since the cancer seems to be doing the job for me. Just in the past month I have lost 4-5 pounds without trying. So to answer your question about modifying what I eat for health reasons? I pretty much can put that in suspension until further notice, I.E they do find a cure for my cancer.
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