mearl20 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I've been seeing a guy for a couple months now. He's 24, I'm 23. There's always been good chemistry. We hang out once or twice a week and I've stayed the night a few times (never did anything but make out and cuddle). I've met his parents and he said he wants to meet mine and he's even invited me on vacation with his family. The other night I went to his house and we hung out for a while and I stayed the night. We were making out and he stopped me saying he had to ask me when my last relationship was. I told him I've never had a serious relationship, only short flings and the closest relationship I had was 2 years ago. He told me he's never had a serious relationship and it's been awhile since he last saw someone. I was pretty surprised because he always seemed like a charmer and flirt (older ladies tend to flirt with him, he calls the waitresses sweetheart and even my girl coworkers liked him and always tried talking to him). He then asked how I felt about us dating and that he's wanted to ask me for awhile. He told me he likes me, said I'm his friend and he likes being around me and that he sees himself dating me. I, of course said I would like it a lot and that I was glad he asked because I wanted to bring it up but wasn't sure how. He went on to ask if we should put it on fb and then he decided against it because it's cliché. He also asked if I liked being called babe. He seemed insecure about saying all this, it was cute and endearing but I know he was nervous. The thing I'm wondering is what he means by dating. It seems like we've already been casually seeing each other so I think he means an exclusive relationship but I'm not sure. Does it sound like he wants it to be exclusive? Would I scare him away if I ask if the relationship is exclusive?
evanescentworld Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Yes, he means exclusive. That's why he had 'the talk' - particularly while you were 'making out'. He wanted you to know he wasn't just using you for a good time, and that's not what he wants. He's looking for something serious. How about you?
Author mearl20 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Ok, thanks! I got the feeling he meant exclusivity but I didn't want to assume in case that's not what he's looking for. I really do like him so I was hoping he meant that.
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 The thing I'm wondering is what he means by dating. It seems like we've already been casually seeing each other so I think he means an exclusive relationship but I'm not sure. Does it sound like he wants it to be exclusive? Would I scare him away if I ask if the relationship is exclusive? Whatever you both agree to, I would discuss it quickly so neither of you are surprised or upset about any ambiguities in the relationship.
Tayken Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Ah...young love, so cute and at the same time tricky
angel.eyes Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I would ask him. Don't make assumptions, especially about exclusivity, when you're uncertain. 1
cristalina Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 It doesn't hurt to ask. However, since he mentioned changing relationship status on facebook, that pretty much means exclusive. - Cris
mightycpa Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I would ask him. Don't make assumptions, especially about exclusivity, when you're uncertain. Me too. Don't forget to be enthusiastic about the idea though!
preraph Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 He might mean exclusive. You should ask. Either way, he wants to take it to the next level. So congrats!
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